PERSONAL: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND CHEMISTRY.

Some people think that true love is just a cliche and nothing of sort exist in this world but I  am here to tell you, true love does exist – whether you find it just in the corner of your neighborhood,or online. It’s not by pure luck for some to experience this.. it comes with confidence, hard work, patience and knowledge as well.

When I look at most woman's profiles, they're all the pretty much the same,-- generous, funny, 'no mind games', they love their job, sensual ... They practically guarantee you'll be on cloud nine. Some of them will only posts an attractive profile photo of themselves that reveals nothing about their inner life. Nothing.  They just want to get 99% of the people to like them, which I think is a  great waste of time. And when everyone is presenting themselves as practically perfect in every way, you're bound to worry you've signed up for a libido-frustrating yawnathon. Personally, I miss the good old days when our parents use to help us get married; now we have to fend for ourselves.

Well anyway, I been watching this new show -“Married At First Sight“.  it about how two people and they meet for the first time on their wedding day. After they get married, they have 6 weeks to live together and make their marriage work before deciding whether or not they want to stay together, or get a divorce. One thing I notice is that the couples who had the most “chemistry” at first sight, were the ones who ended up having the most unhealthy relationship, and getting divorced in the end. In the first episode, you watch them glance at each other and you can see the instant attraction flying off the television screen. One of the women described that initial moment as a “fairy tale” experience. In the past two seasons of the show, 3 out of 4 of the couples who had that instant experience of “love at first sight” ended up filing for a divorce only 6 short weeks after that moment. You know what that tells me? “Love at first sight” – isn’t really love, is it?

To believe in chemistry is essentially to let emotions take the reins, which ultimately causes confusion more than it makes a way for romance. There's really a big difference between the feelings of love, and the actions of love.  Though we might feel the feeling of attraction those feelings are not love because they don’t display the actions of love. And real love is something we do, not something we feel. What did learn from my divorce? Love isn't a noun, it's action. Love is defined by what a person does, rather than simply by how they feel.

True love is born when two people commit to offer themselves for the sake of the other person.Love at first sight is never complete love, because it’s based on emotion rather than commitment; a feeling, rather than a choice, I want to meet someone who is ready to settle down and have kids. Someone who is done with the games. I want to try something like that show "Married At First Sight" but my show  would be called "Relationship At First Sight". If you and I would to meet,we  would have chosen to be in a relationship with each other for a period of 2.5 month for our love to grow.We will become exclusive, and see each other every weekend if possible. If you are unable to do this..then let's not waste each other time. I hate investing time and emotions...only to meet and you tell me "this won't work".  My deal breaker are the following:  Please be kind, honest, educated, have a job, be of child bearing age, take care of yourself physically, come from a good family and want to have kids.

Me? I think I am a perfect catch. I live in Long island in a house...not too far from my parents.I am very close to my family. I have a great job as a doctor where I heal and elimate suffering everyday. ( I come from a family of doctors)  I am kind, caring and I keep my promises. I go on my trendmill almost everyday. I don't drink, smoke and take drugs.I am a big movie buff. One common thing that film buffs everywhere seem to share is our love of quotes. I read 2 ebooks every week..spiritual books, nonfiction. And when it comes to music...i love everything, but my heart has a special places for 80s music. I love to write, I write poetry, stories...thoughts in my blog. About my looks? Personally,I think I am good looking guy, but since deal with the public and treat over 400 patients a month, I will not be sharing any more pictures., I value my privacy.Another reason is that I have been stalked before in the past.

How will we decide to meet or not? I figure we would talk for a few weeks...to build up an emotional connection..to see if we are in the same page. If we can't even get along on the phone..how will we get along in person...the answer.is ..we won't. We wouldn't be meeting as complete stranger since we would have this amazing conversation to build upon our love. So if you have a problem about sharing your number, you should just stop here. Getting to know someone by e-mail is not that great, to put it mildly. Even a thousand e-mail messages back and forth are not going to change the fact that I am still going to be strangers and that I can still be a weirdo to you when I met or call you. I would much rather  get to know you by hearing your voice. I can tell within minutes talking if we are in the same page or not.