PERSONAL/ DATING: SERENDIPITY AND DATING

In my opinion, too many people believe in the power of Serendipity.  They think some random meeting at the zoo or the grocery store will magically pay off with the love of their life.  Maybe so, but the odds aren’t very good.In my opinion, the Serendipity approach is like trying to hit the Lottery.  The math is simply not in your favor. I have no trouble acquiring new girlfriends I know It's sounds arrogant and cruel but there have been a number of meetings with women where I've known that the person would very much like to meet again, they've said so, An establish man, with a secure job, house and is attractive still has undeniable attractions, even for a career woman,.I don’t really have the time now to go out with as many girls  and now I am looking for something  more serious I have certain standards. She should be slim, take an interest in her appearance and look great, kind, caring, established in her career and ready to settle down and have kids Looks are important but the whole is greater than the parts..I think there are a lot of lonely people out there.  Everybody is trying to make that romance connection.  All of us deep down want to make that jump, but the odds of it working are so precarious that we hold back. The reason people are lonely is that they are not making themselves available. They show up at all the best parties, but even then they may not be making themselves emotionally available.  They are waiting for a sure thing or the perfect guy. Every attractive woman I have ever met had one, two, even three guys falling all over her. I keep a close watch on my heart.  I don’t open my heart up to any woman unless she makes a similar move.  It’s like getting undressed.  No way I am getting naked if the woman is keeping her clothes on.  I take my clothes at the same rate or not at all.  I'm not getting attached if she isn't also getting attached.  In the meantime, I have spent time with my family and friends. Lately I had just met alot if beautiful woman who were dream girls  for almost any single guyl, but men came so easily to them they weren’t even remotely interested in settling down! Were there any solid woman somewhere in the middle?  Surely these creatures had to exist or the human race was in big trouble,If a smart guy like me could comb the entire city and come up empty-handed, what did that say for all my brother?   My friends had warned me at the start that finding the Right woman would be harder than I ever imagined.  Holy smokes, no kidding! Yes, I had found a hundred women through personal ads and dating services, but only three or four had distinguished themselves. When I think of the women I’ve really loved, I realize I’m fascinated by women who were kind, sexual, who may be smarter than I am, who won’t’ let me play games.  I want a woman who will show me new things, won’t give up on me when I resist, and who have the ability to share.

Throughout time, men had never really questioned their own tendencies towards wanting to have every attractive woman they came into contact with.  But when women began to behave the same way, men weren’t prepared for that.  They began to wonder how special could they really be if their favorite woman could disengage from them so easily.  How could she really love him if she was having so much fun with the guy down the street?  Men were not even remotely prepared to deal with the deeper consequences of free love. The Book of Love has many chapters.  We all want what we can’t have.  I can have all these women, but I want the ones I can’t have.  I want someone who is my equal, my match, or maybe I can catch someone a grade above me.  Unfortunately the woman who I think are my match avoid commitment like the plague.  Men come so easily to them that they amuse themselves in a flurry of dating.  Why bother settling down?