DATING: THERE ARE SOME GOOD POINT WITH ONLINE DATING

Online dating from a woman’s perspective in a guys head is this. .... women have it made. They have the choice of the litter. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.

I get a lot of profile “views”, but no messages. Maybe they don’t like my pictures, or maybe I’m not being as nice as I feel I am in my messages. Part of me thinks that they’re just so overwhelmed with messages from so many guys that they just pick the few that strike them as the “best” and just ignore the rest. Women’s choice is what it’s all about I guess.

Guys get accused a lot of being superficial and basing everything on looks, but I can’t help thinking that most of these women just file quickly through a guy’s photos and then fly right on to the next one without actually getting to know what the guy is like. It’s so frustrating, because you know, I think a lot of really nice guys out there could make for amazing boyfriends who would treat these lonely, single women like they deserve to be treated. Instead, you know, I think a lot of them are still hung up on hunting for the bad boys, the smooth-talkers. I don’t know what more a nice guy can do, but I do know it would be nice if some of these women would at least give us a chance to show what we have to offer.

Because you start to focus more on that beautiful smile and you forget about important things – like someone’s beliefs, requirements and way of spending free time. I got myself countless times into very sh**ty situations where I forget what’s important to me and I went after looks. I only ended up hurting myself and wasting time for something that was bad from the beginning – I just couldn’t see it. Horrible, I prefer “cold and shallow” text. Maybe it’s not that romantic but at least I will not waste my time because from the very beginning both sides will know fundamental things about eachother, like wanting or not wanting children / getting married, religion. On a classic first date you can’t go to restaurant and ask that person “Hey, you seem like a great person but before we start I’d like to ask… do you want to get married soon? Cause you know, I don’t plan on doing that …” cause that’s even for my egoistic mind hillariously wrong thing to do. But on a dating site? You look at someone’s profile and you get these informations instantly.

My point is not about being shallow and calculating. But still, there ARE things that you cannot overcome in relationship and there’s no way to choose something “in-between”. I know and fully understand that relationship is based on compromise. Still, you can’t force yourself to do some things. With dating websites you see these things instantly (marriage, children, plans about future, religion). With classic dating you may romantically fall in love (which yeah, is damn good feeling) but in the end you may hurt yourself more than you think.