DATING/LOVE: DYING ALONE..AND THE PRO AND CONS OF WAITING

Dying alone is something that many people start to think about when they’re single. When you’re young, being single isn’t really seen as a bad thing, since you can go out drinking and bring home a different partner every night. You can only find this kind of lifestyle satisfying for so long, though, as eventually all your friends will settle down and have kids and you’ll be left on the shelf.

It is when you reach this stage of life that you start to imagine the worst like I am right now. You become preoccupied with the thought of dying alone, even though everyone dies alone in the end. Even if you find someone to share your life with you are hardly likely to die together and so one of you is going to have to go first! That doesn’t matter when you’re feeling down about being by yourself.If you get married and have children there will be someone there for you when you’re old and struggling with ill health. It is reassuring to know that there will be a support network for you, even if this does seem rather selfish.


Pros of Being Married

There are many benefits of being married that one just can't dispute. See if any of these perks would make you want to give up waiting for your butterfly man:

Constant companionship
Knowing someone is on your side
A steady sex partner (can't beat that!)
Someone to take care of you if you get sick
You're automatically "a family"
The opportunity to have children
Someone to share a future with
No more lonely Saturday nights
Someone to go on vacations with
Having two incomes
Knowing there is someone at home with you that night to talk to, eat dinner with, make love with, or watch a movie with after a hard day at work
Maintaining an ongoing relationship with a man

Waiting for Chemistry

Now let's look at the realities of choice in staying single while waiting it out 

Pros of Waiting

You're free to pursue your career to the fullest extent
You're free to pursue your passions and interests
You're free to live where you want
You're free to do what you want with your money
You're free to grow and learn more about yourself, take workshops, enroll in classes
You're not accountable for anyone except yourself
You can travel wherever you want, whenever you want
You don't have to put up with someone else s habits or any behavior you don't want to tolerate
You don't have to go through a horrible divorce

Cons Of Waiting

-Dating can be traumatic-dating for years, subjecting yourself to all different types of  people can be traumatizing. Repetitive rejections and disappointments, having to attach and reattach, can take a toll on a a person's energy, emotional and physical health, and psyche. Although dating is supposed to be a social event, it can also be a horrible experience, causing feelings of humiliation and hopelessness. This is a lot to deal with-and without proper guidance, it can be overwhelming.

You're really alone! One of the major downfalls of being without a partner is that there is no one immediately there to help you if you should need it-such as when you have an illness, financial difficulties, or just a bad day. Experiences like these may cause single person to second-guess the choices they've made.



Shopping-Bag  Syndrome

Many single individual have a secret fear of ending up a "shopping-bag person," even if they are successful and doing well financially. It appears to be a universal fear  that they will end up alone, homeless, and broke.