LOVE/THOUGHTS: HOW CAN I GIVE MORE

I see so many profile describe themselves as the most educated, the most brilliant, the most beautiful, the hottest, the richest, the nicest, the most charismatic, the most flirtatious, the most seductive,  the most exciting, the most creative and the most anything, BUT if you are afraid, unwilling and unable to look inside, recognize the love that is already there, take that love and give it away, you're just that; educated, brilliant, beautiful, hot, rich, nice, charismatic, flirtatious, seductive, energizer bunny, exciting, creative etc. You're most anything, but NOT a lover.

You can even say the "right" loving" words, know the "right" techniques, tactics, and tricks, and do all the "right" kinds of selfless "acts of love", but if you are honest with yourself, you'll admit that you feel alone and lonely, unworthy and unloved. You're repeatedly rejected, repeatedly lied to and cheated on, avoided constantly, told what a great person you are but not loved.

Why? Because you are anything but a lover and doing everything "right" except doing what great lovers do.What exactly do great lovers do? Great lovers give themselves permission to love and be loved. Let me rephrase it this way: To get love, you have to first of all recognize the love already within, develop it, and then give it all away-- willingly and freely.

So many woman I have been with tried to get me to love them by - demanded to be loved, begged to be loved, slaved and suffered for love, and even used manipulation me, seduction or bribery me to get some love -- and yet it seems like they never get it, get it but it's never enough or get it 

You see, to be a great lovers you need to understand that the only thing that attracts love is love itself. To attract love you have to BE the loving person you want to attract into your life. You have to BE the love you want -- and give that love to yourself before you can expect to get it from someone else. It's asking too much of others to love you when you can't even love yourself.

I am sure you are going to tell me.. that you've sacrificed so much, "given" so much, and done so much to make someone else happy but it seems the more you "give" and the harder you try, the more you push away the very same person you're trying to make love you. Your words, actions and desire to be loved threaten the very existence of that love.

Listen giving love away in order to get love is not giving it away at all. The only reward great lovers seek and the only reward they really care about is the experience of loving -- to love simply for the pleasure of loving.

Conventional wisdom says, don't give your love away because you can't get it back...Great lovers are not afraid to love and to show that they love because they understand that nobody can steal your love or take it away from you. Your love is yours to give away. Only you can give it away. It's probably the only one thing in this world that you can call truly call "yours." Not yours to keep or hold onto but yours to give away-- willingly and freely.

And you were "lucky" to have met that one very special individual, the only person out there for you. Your whole happiness rested in the happiness of your beloved. But now that person is gone, so is your happiness -- and love. You feel that you'll never be able to love again because your one chance for love and happiness is gone -- forever.

You see .. no matter how much love you give away, you'll still have so much left. You could love every single person in the whole world and even love all the animals, birds, insects and plants with the same amount of love for each but still have plenty more love left. The more you give the more love -- and enjoyment, acknowledgement, acceptance -- comes back to you two, three or even hundredfold.

So if you are educated, brilliant, beautiful, hot, rich, nice, charismatic, flirtatious, seductive, energizer bunny, exciting, creative etc. and yet still find yourself feeling alone and lonely; unworthy and unloved; repeatedly rejected; repeatedly lied to and cheated on; avoided constantly, told what a great person you are and even liked (a lot) but not really loved, you might want to try this one more thing.

Instead of learning flirting, acting confident, and attractive techniques, learn how to be a great lover. Instead of asking "where can I get love?" start asking "How can I give more love?" Because that is the part I notice most woman don't do. They aren't loving as they say they are.