LOVE/DATING/JOURNAL: THE DEAL BREAKER FOR ME

I know the characteristics that are deal breakers for me - they are all the internal ones.  I personally think my standards are rather high, yet I didn't have such a long list. My expectations could be stated rather simply. I wanted a person I found

(1) Who take care of themselve physically
(2) Intelligent enough to hold an interesting conversation
(3) honest
(4) to be sexually interesting.
(5)kind

The external pieces of the puzzle will vary. Of course I would like someone HOT - and I did married one and later divorced. And what I learn is I would never sacrifice the internal things in order to get someone beautiful. For me - falling for the internal person always makes the external body attractive! :)

At some point the bond of a relationship starts to supersede the physical bond of sexual attraction, so even when looks fade, the two are just as drawn to each other as they were at the beginning of their relationship. But this is something that takes time to build (years even).

I'm happy being me, so I don't need another person to ``complete me.'' There's a difference between compromising your standards and looking for someone you could only find if you were able to order a mate from a factory and select features you think you would like to have. The latter may be a fantasy, but like most fantasies, would not be as much fun in real life if it were realized. The women I date in long-term relationships are higher quality If I was looking for short-term hookup my standards fall. I am done with short term relationships...I am older now.