DATING/LOVE: WOMAN ARE AS SHALLOW AS MEN...BUT LIE ABOUT IT

I’ve been thinking about something a friend said to me. It left a large enough impression obviously, to evoke some thought. During a discussion, He had said something along the lines of, “There aren’t many women with their act together these days” And he was right. If you look at most woman profile, most of them are not educated, don't have a career but only a job, and don't know how to handle money. Yet...most of them want a  tall, handsome, funny, thoughtful, attentive, rich, high-status, fun, confident not arrogant, sweet but with and edge. If you turn the table around and as some womans I know who who have spent their lives studying and working hard to climb up their career ladder and are pretty successful and tell them  to go for a guy with no job or no prospect of getting one, who has no home of his own, who’s divorced with children e.t.c, I don’t think that I would give such advice cause it doesn’t seem fair to me and if I was in their shoes, I’m not sure that I’d compromise so far.

Anyone can dream anything they want, and most dreams remain just that - DREAMS. I can dream of winning the lottery - but is it likely? No (especially since I don't even do it ;) By far the majority of people rate themselves above average in any department you care to mention; looks, intelligence, desirability, sense of humour...ability to drive, whatever. So, (simplifying) everyone thinks they are above average and thus they are looking for above average because they DESERVE it dammit!; But the truth is "You attract what you are" If you are not attracting what you want, you need to look in the mirror and ask yourself some very tough questions. What do I have to offer? Is that attractive to the type of guys I want? What do I need to do to improve myself for me to get what I want. No it is not easy but it is beneficial as you end up better off in the end.

Women want so much in men they forget to take a closer look at themselves.....alot of the things your looking for are present in everyman and are simply manifested in different ways and to different degrees.....being "in love" must mean meeting someone who might not necessarily tick all the boxes but who will treat you right.......all the things you desire in someone else you can bring out in yourself.I don't think "love" has anything to do with standards..it transcends that sort of bullshit

Yet alot of woman are imbued with rage when they see high-value men near their age still dating women who are much younger, thus declaring all men shallow and not worthy of their spit.


Women have this enormous checklist by which they evaluate men, and as they get older, rather than relax their standards a bit, they continue to peruse the same checklist, looking for that perfect man.  

It’s a catch-22 proposition though.  These perfect men they so desire will, by their very perceived perfection and “high market value”, be able to date much younger women.  Why date a 30 year old when you can still date a 25 year old just as easily?  The ones who can’t attract younger women just as easily will be the leftovers such older women STILL reject, because they’re fat, bald, stuck in dead-end jobs, etc.  Who’s being shallow again?

I think because it goes that the best chance a woman has to marry and find a suitable man is during her most attractive years, but too many spend those years investing in careers and completely blowing off men, thinking they’ll be just as attractive in their 30s as they were in their 20s, but when they find they don’t nearly draw men the way they used to, well, they go cray cray with rage and bitterness. It’s another reason why it’s good to marry early, and when you’re in an environment where you’re surrounded by tons of single men.

This is what bothers me.  It’s not that I don’t mind women disqualifying men based on things that could be considered shallow (such as the guy’s eye color or height.)  We all have our preferences and ideals.  It’s that they LIE about this, painting themselves as moral queens who insist they are attracted to men based on their virtues, whereas men use looks, (and ONLY looks) to evaluate suitable women.

Attraction and evaluation are two different things though  When it comes to pure attraction, men are visually oriented.  Women can’t seem to abide by this, but it’s a scientific fact.  It’s how we’re wired.  Even worse, women may deny (in order to maintain their moral superiority complex) that they are not visually oriented, despite rejecting men who are short, have balding hair and a flabby body.  On top of this, society (as driven by feminism) perpetuates the lie that women are attracted to men based on virtue, being emotionally sensitive, and being respectful of women (which really means pedestalizing them and supplicating their every desire).  You know, the NICE GUY.

I used to fall for that women aren’t so hung up on looks, but after you see enough fat or bald or otherwise ugly men getting nuclearly rejected, it’s obvious looks matter just as much to women.
I always thought being a nice guy, showing chivalry and maturity, giving girls flowers, being romantic, etc. attracted women, but it doesn’t. They kept insisting that this is what attracts them to men, so I kept doing it, and yet still continued to see women fall for the worst elements on earth. Are they just being immature? Yes, but it’s more than that, and once I understood, I finally realized there was an inherent logic to seeing them fall for the biker dude or the guy who just got out of prison after all, and no longer took it personally. What I didn’t understand before is all those things that I did that women told me they loved is not what sexually attracts women. They may find these things ADMIRABLE, but it does NOT sexually attract them. I had to already be attractive to a girl for things like maturity, romance and so on to really pay off in a relationship. They are important to building a long lasting marriage, but they don’t induce attraction. 

The real truth (in a nutshell) is that women are attracted to men who are strong and dominant.  A nice guy can be strong and dominant, but usually they unwittingly present themselves as being wussies, which is a major turnoff.  Showing how sensitive you are by bawling your eyes out watching Sleepless in Seattle does not attract women.  They are actually repulsed by this.  Yet because we’ve been told over and over that women are attracted to a man’s “heart” and the notion of being attracted to someone who projects masculine strength and leadership is sexist, this simple but suppressed truth flies over the head of many clueless men (including me as well.)

Women do like maturity, and that the smart ones make this a huge qualifier when seeking a good husband, but maturity doesn’t sexually attract a woman to a man either. You see how I’m making a distinction here? 

Going back to the age thing, women who are younger have a higher sexual allure than older women do. Decent men will still gravitate to younger women in general because it’s a biological impulse, but  some of them will just throw up their hands in frustration when the younger ones continue to prove themselves as immature, self absorbed, etc., and thus obviously wouldn’t make good wives, so they date older women, (so long as they still find such women sexually attractive).