LOVE: WHY THE DATING SCENE IS IN SO MUCH MESS (ALPHA AND BETA MEN)

Women labour under the impression they can have it all. They can have the career, this carefree lifestyle and then, at the snap of their fingers, because they are so fabulous, find a man. But if they wait until their 30s they're competing with women who are much younger and in various ways more attractive. Many high-achieving women simply are not interested in Mr Average.''They've swallowed the L'Oreal line: 'Because you're worth it!' There's a real sense of entitlement.''  Female members are determined to meet only men who are tall, attractive, wealthy and well educated. They want the alpha males.Data from American colleges show 20 per cent of males - the most attractive ones - get 80 per cent of the sex. Really most woman having spent their 20s dating alpha males, expected them to be still around when she finally decided to get serious. They arrived at the top of the staircase 'finally ready to start their lives, only to discover a cavernous room at the tail end of a party, most of the men gone already, some having never shown up - and those who remain are leering by the cheese table, or are, you know, the ones you don't want to go out with

An Alpha Male is a man that women want to have sex with very, very badly.  So badly, that they will cheat on their companion with them, and allow these men to have sex with other women as long as they continue to have sex with them.  This is who women ideally want to have children by.

A Beta Male is a man who women pursue more so because of their ability to provide for them, and make them feel good about themselves, rather than pure sexual passion.

You will hardly ever see a woman dating a broke, unemployed Beta Male.  Typically, if a woman is dating a Beta Male, it is because he is educated, has a good career, an average to above-average degree of financial stability, and a very easy-to-get-along-with personality.

On the other hand, an Alpha Male could have a criminal record, be unemployed, and have no money to his name, and many women would still want to date this man or exchange orgasms with him casually.

This is what many women do:  When they are between the ages of roughly 16 and 29, they primarily go for the Alpha Males.  Once they reach 30, no later than 34 or 35, they start going after the Beta Males.  Why?  Again, because as women get older, financial security becomes more important and having a dependable father figure to their children becomes more important.  So, they start pursuing Beta Male types.  Most Alpha Male types are usually erratically employed and have less-than-average financial stability, in addition to being very promiscuous.

If a woman's profile on an online dating site reads, "Looking for a nice guy who is well-mannered, who is marriage-minded and monogamy-minded and loves children.  Must be financially secure and ambitious," this means she is looking for a Beta Male.

If a woman's profile reads more like, "Looking for a guy who is really confident with, can make me laugh, and great chemisty with," then this would be representative of a woman looking for an Alpha Male.

There are upsides and downsides to both:

Upside of being perceived by women as an "Alpha Male":  Women will literally throw the pu**y at you.  You will never be without opportunities for [casual] sex.

Downside:   Most women will not want to marry you or maintain a long-term relationship with you.  Either because you're not together career-wise and/or financially, or because they know you will cheat on them.

Upside of being perceived by women as a "Beta Male":  Women will typically want to settle down with you and marry you.  They will want you to be a husband and father to their kids.

Downside:  If you marry young, your wife will probably cheat on you with one or more Alpha Males;  If you marry in your mid-30s or later, most women who throw themselves at you, or was previously married to and later divorced from an Alpha Male;  Many women will have children by one or more Alpha Males.

The 30s are worrying years for high-achieving women who long for marriage and children - of course, not all do - as they face their rapidly closing reproductive window surrounded by men who see no rush to settle down. It seem to me that women themselves are at risk of ego-tripping themselves out of romantic connection. They are with an '8' but they want a '10'. But then suddenly they're 35 and can only get a '5'!''

In their 20s, the women had the total upper hand. They could make or break you with one look in a club or bar. They had the choice of men, sex was on tap and  beta guys went home alone, red-faced, defeated and embarrassed. The girls only wanted to go for the cool guys, good looks, outgoing personalities, money, sporty types, the kind of guys who owned the room, while the rest quiet ones got ignored.

You know that is funny those same guys gained more confidence, learn how to dress well and hit his early 30s. suddenly started to get asked out by women and,they would bedding three to four of the casual dates each week. It is a great time as a male in your 30s, when you start getting more female attention and sex than you could ever have dreamt of in your 20s. It because these woman are  tired of the cock carousel and they see a perfect beta to settle down with before their eggs dry out..but these guy want to marry woman who are younger and more beautiful.

I’m slowly coming to the conclusion that something is wrong with a culture if the women explicitly prefer alpha males. It makes illogical sense from a biological and humanitarian standpoint that a woman would go after men who will not provide or take care of them.To find out if a mating behavior is wrong or not, just use the sister test. Would you want your sister riding the carousel? So man  women have out-sourced their comfort through a diverse network of paid service providers — the lawn man, the handyman, the pool man, and the Ben and Jerry’s scooper. They’ve used their impressive earning power to provide all the comfort that was traditionally provided by a husband, and then supplemented their emotional needs with pets or romance novels or stuff told from the vampire’s point of view. They don’t need comfort, so they despise Betas or good guys even as they use them like rental cars. They crave Excitement (oxytocin), which Alpha behavior inspires. Hence the carousel, the loathing of Betas, etc. They’re jaded. They’ve been told that adult womanhood is filled with excitement, and when they don’t get it (good and hard and regular) they move on to the next novelty cock.

As far as porn goes…do you know why guys watch porn?  For visual stimulation while they masturbate.  Do you know why guys masturbate?  Because they can’t have sex with a real girl at that time.  I don’t know of a single guy who would pick masturbating to porn over having actual sex with an actual woman if given the choice.

Let that sink in. If the majority of men had the choice, they would rather have sex with real women rather than watch porn. So where does the problem lie? The vast majority of women shunning the vast majority of men while they chase the alpha dog. Factor in the failure of marriage 2.0, the divorce industry, and the complete abdication of women wanting to act like women (grrrrl power, durrrr, we don’t need men) and what incentive is there for men to want to ‘man up’ as it were?

Most woman believe that a nice guy will always take other men's leftovers. So, a lot of women feel they can be as stupid, slutty, whorish, and reckless as they want and when they decide to get it together...if they have any looks left...a nice man will feel sorry for them and take them. They don't want nice men until they have been run through, rode hard and wet and hung out to dry. They consciously admit that. They plan to have as much sexual drama and adventure with as many "swagga" men as they can and when they have had their fill...they will put their bastard children into the lap of a "nice guy" and he will fall in love with their kids and then she'll have a husband.

That is pretty much the story for all single women over 25 that are looking for good men. They gave their virginity and their prime sexual years and the freshness of their feminine fruits to thugs and hoodlums and now want a nice man to come in and dine on the bitter and hard core of the apple after other men have consumed all the sweet fruit around it.