THOUGHTS: FINDING "MY FUTURE WIFE"

STEP ONE- MY DAILY AFFIRMATION:


I wondering if I would ever find my life partner. For as long as I remember, I have been a seeker. In this moment in my life right now, I saw that I had indeed achieve most of my dreams I'd always believe in, the car, the career, the friends, the money, and the apartment in the city. I looked deep into my heart, I realized the frightening truth--I was not happy. I was satisfied...I was fulfilled.... But I was not happy. Why wasn't all this making me happy? Why wasn't it enough? What was missing? Slowly as the days and weeks passed, I began to see the truth Two year ago I was seeing Melissa but she didn't treat me with love and respect. She wanted control. I awoke one morning feeling suffocated, unloved and realized in that one poignant moment that I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be in a relationship with the wrong person. This was very liberating moment for me. I felt that I was destined to be in a comm itted relationship and to be a father, and yet I finally felt truly at peace and surrender to the universe. The last few years I had been devoted primarily to spiritual pursuits and finding peace. Throughout this time, however, the deepest part of my heart kept calling out for it. I felt content, but not complete. I even explored the world of casual dating for the first time in my life. It was entertaining, but empty. I developed the following affirmation to express my heart's desire:



"By the irresistible power of divine universe, I now draw to myself the wonderful romance, right marriage, and happy home with my true soul companion, who is mine by divine right, and who now manifests in my life, under grace, in the perfect way."

So this will be my daily affirmation beside my mission statement.

I feel when you truly love someone you give the best part of your soul and heart to the other person, but you still need that piece for yourself as well to live a good, loving life, so you have to live as one with this person I n order for you both to survive. It is a gift you can just take back because it will never come back the same. We fill the holes in our lives and hearts with the best parts of ourselves, and there they will live for eternity. It's not so much out of need. It's more out of longing. I'd like to have faith that there's someone out there who gets me. I'd like to believe that there's a woman out there that will actually take the time to REALLY get to know me...a woman who isn't scared of a man who they don't immediately understand at face value. I act like I don't need a soul...but that doesn't mean I don't long for one. I love life. I love love. I live love. I have a lot of love to give, All I know is that I refuse to guard my heart... because I have faith that God has created a woman just for me. And will lead me to her. I absolutely can not wait to be a husband. I never used to be that way. I used to want to go the business route, obtain a prestigious position and perhaps, eventually, maybe settle do. Marriage isn't about one person being better or more capable of making decisions, it's about trusting someone and having a great deal of understanding of that person's love for you. Knowing that every decision and choice they make is based on your best interest before their own. That is something so amazing... That is why so many guys act like idiots. They can't handle the role, they don't know know who to love sacrificially. How to be a real man. Equally, I can't wait to be a father. I have just realized that in today's world... no one knows for sure who will and won't be here tomorrow... so why not love? If I am going to be taken from this Earth, I would much rather be taken from a home full of love, life and laughter than my office building where I spend 90 + hours per week or spending so much time with friends, evaded from the outside world. I can not wait to make life... to teach my children life lessons which will enable them to be all that they are inside, to do things for no other reason than that they are right, to search within and be their own driving force. It's amazing. I can't wait to be there for all of the little coo's.. All of the daddy. All of the boo boos and long nights. I want to be a loving, supportive husband. I want my wife to feel everything that I see in her. I want her to want to come home to me... not have to come home to me. I want to be an equally loving, caring father. To beautiful babies, who hopefully are a spitting image of her. Whoever her may be. I believe that there are not many honorable 'professions' left in this world. Other than that of being a wife and mother.... If you call those professions. That is what I want ULTIMATELY, key word. All in fate's timing Right now; I just want someone fun and playful... intelligent and articulate. Sweet. To spend a beautiful day with.


STEP TWO: QUESTIONS TO ASK THOSE I AM INTERESTED IN


1-How would you describe yourself as a small child between the ages of five and twelve?
-If you are like most people, the little boy or girl you once were, you still are. Our personality are formed in the first few years of life. We are very reistant to change after that. Once we get older, we often maks. We confuse our ideal self with our real self and can even lose touch with who we really are.

2-What have you learned about men while you grew up?

3-What are three or four of your early childhood memories?
-Out of the millions of events that have occured in your life, your brains has chosen these two or three memories. Why? Because they are consistent with ho you view life. Discussing these memories will open up a window to her soul, few other things can. You know she is afraid of breaking a rule, she's confromtable being by herself.

4-How would you describe either of your parents?
-Whoever your date choose first is usually the parent who impacted their life the most. The next thing I listen for is how they describe their parent. Next look for the meaning the words.

-Someone who tells you about the warm, loving family get togethers they had growning up is telling you a lot about who they are. And someone who tells you about loud, drunken, angry bitter family they experienced is also telling you alot.

5-What were your sibling like?

6-How would u fill in the blanks? I only matter in life when i_____________?

7. What do you do for fun?

-if you ask someone what she does for fun and she tells you taht she doesn't have much free time, that she works or goes out every night or weekends with friends...then she is telling you about about who she is. Later in the relationship, when she has no time for you and you realize she is a workaholic or spends too much partying....you shouldn't be surprise. If you're attracted to a woman who goes out every weekend with her friends, don't think she will suddenly stop.

8. What kind of work do you do?
-it's important that the values she brings to her work are values that you respect. How important is her work? More important than a relationship?

9.How did you/ how do you spend holidays? Family vacations
-If she came from a very close family and she spends al the holiday and vacations together ( and expect you to do so, as well, no matter what your traditions have been). If you're family-oriented person you might not be compatible with a person who's not.

10-Where do you see yourself in five years.
-You're looking for someone who can imagine being in a committed relationship, aren't you? Well, if their future plan about career and travel for the next five years and you want to settle down and get married now, this may not be the person for you.

11-When was your last relationship?
-You should be looking for complete closure with the last---or any previous--relationship. You don't want to hear that there's lingering love- or hate--or anything from an old flame. They need to be focusing on you.

12-How do you handle conflicts in a relationship?
-do they quit?

13-What are your expectations for the relationships?

14-What does sex mean to you?


STEP THREE: TAKING CARE OF MYSELF ALSO

The more you enjoy life, the more attractive you will be. Nobody wants to be with an unhappy pessimist. They don't make for good company. Self-care is anything that makes you feel good. For me:
-a hot bath
-taking a nap
-exercise
-reading a good book
-escapsim of a good movie
-listening to my audio books
-writing
-masturbating

I make a practice of gong at least three things that I enjoy daily. You're not much good to anyone if you're depleted. You should treat your self as well as you want any person to treat you. taking good care of yourself reflects that you hold yourself in high esteem. That means that everyone around you---will think of you the same way.