LOVE: SAVE ME FROM LUST

Who considers Lust a sin? Well if you do, then you're still living in the stone-age while Lusting half the time even without knowing it. This is not according to me but according to Prof Simon Blackburn of Cambridge University who is attempting to rescue that lusty Lust :) While lust, anger, envy, gluttony, sloth, pride and greed are considered sins, Prof Blackburn is trying to drag Lust from the category of sin to that of virtue. He defines Lust as "the enthusiastic desire for sexual activity and its pleasures for its own sake". He also states that if reciprocated, Lust leads to pleasure and "best flourishes when unencumbered by bad philosophy and ideology... which prevent it's freedom of flow".

I think he's got a valid point, don't you? Lust after all is part of being human. While one should not let Lust rule his life, it is pretty improtant to realise that Lust aint Mr.Evil either. What we have to do is take control of it and use it to give us pleasure while not hurting anyone else. What you have to realise though is that Lust can be very misleading and most of the time people think it's Love, when it's not. When you look across a crowded room and feel your heart going 'boom boom' and your shong shongs going 'yeyy yeyy' lol, with the delicate signs of sexual arousal, and you say to yourself "ok He/She's the one", you have to be very very careful. An article on Lust stated that actually it's not 'Love at first sight', but an ancient genetic programme kicking into action. It read "It doesn't matter if he's a potential wife beater or she's a terrible nag or wants to live in the country when you are a real townie. Apparently your genes don't take personality into account. They are on a one track mission to get you to have sex and reproduce. Scientific experiments have proved that, if your genes are different from his or hers, and he or she has a certain look, you'll be driven crazy with Lust." That was certainly something new to me. I didnt know about the gene factor contributing to who I fall in Lust with. It further stated that women are majorly attracted (falls in Lust with) to the scent of guys with totally different MHC genes to theirs' (MHC - major histocompatibility complex genes - don't ask me what that is :).

It also stated that "Those genes are apparently pretty powerful and combined with the 'attraction template' they are going to kick off a huge surge of 'Lust hormones'. Our body produces these hormones to make us want to have sex. This is determined by the programming in our DNA that says 'REPRODUCE'. The 'Lust hormones' are so strong that they often override every ounce of common sense." Ok no wonder many times I felt like I'm the biggest idiot breathing on this planet . It further read that "While our bodies are overflowing with desire, our brains are unable to make rational decisions. That's why it's called love sickness! So when those long term couples who claim to have fallen in love at first sight claim 'I just knew', they really didn't. Their genes knew they'd make strong kids with that person and they'd been programmed to fancy the way that person looks. It's pure chance that on top of the genetic and physical compatibility, they also have matched personalities." That's kind of shocking to me. Now I see why it is so easy for me to find Lust everywhere but so hard for me to find Love hehe.

So folks, next time you're irresistibly drawn to someone, apparently you should be patient for at least two years before making any major decisions. It said that it can take anything from up to six months to two years or more for the Lust hormones to die down and the pink clouds of 'perfection' to fade away, woooosh! It lastly stated "Give your brain an opportunity to check out all the stuff that we should be aware of before committing ourselves to marriage, buying a home or worse still making babies".

To be honest I really liked that article because it made a lot of sense. While there are alot of people who may really fall in Love at first sight, I believe most people fall in Lust at first sight. Later on it may or may not change into Love. As much as many of you would like to deny the fact that Lust drove you to your partners at first sight (I'm not talking about long-term friendship and then Love), well this scientific research says it is Lust indeed. Most of the time we see a guy/gal and we say she's hot, he's a hunk, her eyes are sexy, his lips are wow etc. These are lusty terms btw :) And the ecstasy, heat and the passion you feel sure explains that it's Lust not Love. And later on we date them and may fall in love and even get married. But mostly it's Lust that brought you together at first sight. But if that Lust never grew into Love later on, you are bound to fall apart and go separate ways. I am not afraid to say I fell in Lust at first sight with my ex (She was a hot;-) and even though on my part it grew into Love, herLust probably didn't - that maybe why we are no more together. While Lust certainly isn't a sin beware that it can mislead you, so make sure you learn to control it to treat you and others right. So has Lust treated you alright ;-) ?

Young lust...Happy just to be in lust
Never have to eat no dust
Everybody talk aboutYoung lust
You're dyin' and you're screamin' inside
Oh, you're guilty way before you been tried
It's crazy but you're diggin' it...Young lust
Young lust you feel it in the summertime blues Oh, easy when there's nothin' to lose
And baby you been missin' out young lust... ~~Young Lust - Aerosmith