Awareness is everything. Sometimes we tend to do the same things over and over again to ourselves. There seem to be a vortices of energy that controls us. Understanding the gravitational pull that these patterns can have on us is the first step.
I got an email from one of my fan, and she writes, "I don't understand why it is but every man that I am with ends up telling me the same thing. I like you. I respect you. I enjoy being with you, but I do not love you. They all leave me for the same reason."
I believe this woman has never been vulnerable with a man. Does she understand the connection between her unwillingness to be vulnerable and the pattern of men not falling in love with her. People will usually like you for being nice. They will admire and respect you for having your act together, but they can only love you when you allow them to see your vulnerabilities and flaws. I am sure she been trying for years to hide her feelings and her flaws in order to be loved and here I am telling her now in this blog that she had to do exactly the opposite. I am sure she is responding to all men as thought they were her father, who she believe would love her only if she was emotionally self-contained and strong. This fan came to rely upon her ability to shut down emotionally as the perfect way to protect herself from ever being hurt. I hope that I have show her that she is the source of the pattern, she has the choice to change. I think that the other problem might be that she is used to being the one in the relationship who has the male energy (being strong, aggressive...ect) If she wants to experience being taken care of, she has to let herself give up being in control.
To break a pattern require self-awareness regarding the connection between what it is that you are doing and the result that you are getting. The alternative--to continue on in the same unconscious fashion...creating disappointing results--is simply unacceptable. To me...cheating oneself out of love is the most terrible deception, it is an eternal loss or which there is no reparation, either in time or eternity.
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