THOUGHTS: WHAT WOMAN NEED TO LEARN

I believe that one of the basic mistake that men and woman make in relationship is lack of commitment and sacrifice. It seem like woman are more committed to their careers, their interests..ect. We live in very selfish times. I think a lot of people get into relationship to fulfill their own needs, but I think you should get into a relationship when you're ready to fulfill the needs of your partner. I think that is real love...to want to give to......to make someone else happy.

My job is just a place I go for a couple of hours so I can make money. My home is where I live and love and laugh and so it's very easy for me to make that my number one priority. An unwillingness to give indicates a selfishness that will ruin things both in and out of bed.

I don't think the problem most men have is with a woman being powerful. I think the problem most men have is when that powerful woman doesn't know how to be just his woman

Most woman must realize that it is not submissive to let your man be a man and not expect him to act like your girlfriend. By making him more important then yourself and considering his feeling above your own, it actually works out that you get everything that you could possible want. A real woman is available, emotionally, spiritually and physically for her man. She is selfless, and in doing so...love herself because she has much to offer. Most woman are scared of the vulnerability of losing their independence and come up with a good reason to avoid turning them self over to him....that's the part of her that is hurting and confused from her childhood experience. Most woman thing that giving yourself up to your man and give him whatever you want is a form of prostitution...i beg to differ..prostitution is receiving money for sex. Relationship sex is about love and bonding. Some woman expect to be cherished by a man without that man enjoying the depth of passion that make him feel loved, needed, wanted, adored and ultimately accepted and that happen only through sex. A man need the physical to feel connected emotionally to his woman. Any woman who dismisses that truth about her man will lose her man..even if he doesn't walk out the door until the kids are in college. Woman complain about their husband desire for them all the time...to want to fuck them. Complain? As if being desired were some kind of intrusion or insult. These woman excuse themselves from intimacy because

-they don't like their body
-they are too tired or busy
-bored sexually
-don;t feel like it
-its disgusting that all he want is sex sex sex

A woman might ask..."Am I obligated to have sex and do whatever your parent wants? My answer will always be the same...yes....

If you can't do that...you need to sit down with your man and hold his hand and look straight into his eyes and say...."You are a wonderful and loving man and I'm scared of love because I never had it. Sometimes I push it away only because I'm scared of it and I'm not comfortable. SO please understand that I'm not rejection you....i love you and you're wonderful.

Alot of woman need to learn to be unselfish...self-centered and focusing on primarily...what's in it for me. That a woman and man complement each other and become one. One of the person who i was in love with...Melissa...couldn't understand it.... I would tell her

" I want my old Melissa back...i don't know who you are. You are the same person whi was with. I seem I am marginalized and relegated to the point of insignificance in your life. For you it seem there is always something more important than being with me. This has been going on for a long time. My hope was that some day things would be different" 

Your priorities have been your work..your child..a friends need, some task that has to be finished before bed or whatever...The list goes on and on. All of these noble causes, but it leaves you with having nothing left over for me. 

I do have needs and told you this numbeous times. Your response is typically that I am some selfish, unreasonable. and irrational SOB..and then anger that I keep bring this up. You cry about it, but you don't do anything to change. You just want to be angry about it and then act like you are the victim"