Come on now, admit it, Haven't you secretly been hoping that your soulmate would turn out to be some extraordinarily glamorous, larger than life figure whose love would transform your existence, validate your worth, make you the envy of all your friends, and end all your earthly cares? Haven't you been thinking that this person would be, not merely nice, but more than a little divine. For only by wildly exaggerating our lovers' virtues and blinding us to their fault can our false self hope to make their possibilities as our saviours seem in any way credible.
The ego induces us to feel inadequate and incomplete, and then promises us a solution in the form of a lover who will be our other half, supplying all the inner worth we experience ourselves a lacking? When we are seeing ourselves through the eyes of our ego, it's easy to believe we are only half a person, and that our only hope for survival lies in inducing someone whole to complete us.Your soulmate may very well be your savior...if you mean by the term is honored of love, but the only one who can Free you of fear and make you happy is you
The way to safe yourself is to dismiss the illusion that you lack something essential to your well-being and stop searching for what appears to be missing outside yourself. When we rely upon others to meet our needs we feel helpless and dependent no matter how well, we're cared for. If you've been imagining that you need an ideally compatible life partner--as opposed to very much wanting one--you can be sure that you've been seeking a savior rather than a soulmate. And because you are setting your lover a task they cannot possibly fulfill, you're destined to be perpetually disappointed. Lasting security, love are the result of self-realization, and self-realization involves self-reliance.
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