LOVE: YOUR BEAUTIFUL MIND

Your emotional needs in an intimate relationship reflects the emotional needs you had with your parents. You want to be acknowledge as special, just like you did with your parents. You want to feel secure in your partner's love, just like you did with your parents, and you want your partner to give you more attention, just like you did with your parent. As adults, one part of us is unfulfilled by our intimate relationship, another part of us is actually satisfied by replicating our early childhood patterns. This is the part of us that is willing to settle for consolation and security.

The way our parent treates us, whether it was abusively or dotingly, become our template for love. It is like radar. When we are with a partner who treats us as our parent did...then our bodies and emotions feels...Oh yes this feel like home. If one of your parents were critical of you, you will unconsiously be attracted to someone who criticize you. The repeatedly engage the psychoemotional dance that we learn as children in rhythem with their parents, and attempt to lead that dance toward the feeling of love and acceptance. One way of looking at relationship is to see them as an attempt to replicate our relationship with our parents or the relationships we wished we had with our parents. Another way to see intimate relationship is as a vehicle for practice of opening, growth and real love. You may never completely unlearn what you have learn from your parent, but it doesn't have to be an obstruction to love. It could just be a humorous facet of the relationship.

We all have many voices inside us. Some of them are pleasant, other are not. You have a saint inside of you as well as a sinner. You have a protective mother inside of you as well as a little baby who want to be held and loved. When you objectify all your internal voice, you understand and are aware that they are all part of the energy pattern that you call me. We don't have obey any of the voices