LOVE: THE TRUTH ABOUT REJECTION

Research has shown that a rejected lover's broken heart may cause as much distress in a pain center of the brain as an actual physical injury.There's something about exclusion from others that is perceived as being as harmful to our survival as something that can physically hurt us, and our body automatically know this. When somebody breaks up with you, they are saying...for reason real or imagined...
-they can't be with you
-they don't get you

Think back on any relationship you've been in that ended, even when you were desperately in love and were the one being dumped. Ultimately, was the one who rejected you the right person for you? Did they see you clearly and love you deeply? Could they not wait to see you at the end of the day...or were you the one holding it all together?

And your reaction is most likely...what do you mean? We have so much in common. Our sex life is so great. I love you so much. I just know we're meant to be together. There are many things one can say about this, but i boils down to the principle of acceptance. Seeing the other person clearly and accepting where they are in the only loving thing to do, even when they are walking out the door. Anything else, especially trying to change their mind, or fall into manipulation doesn't work. Sometimes it is a mystery and must be accepted as such. Try to love them whether they are walking toward you or walking away. Realize that rejection is protection. Protect from what? ...from the actions of somebody who doesn't see the light within you. Or they see it but can't meet it. Or they see it and feel inferior to it, not ready for it.