Every relationship I enter...I go with high hopes, only to end in disillusionment and heartbreak. The woman I loved, didn't love me or at least not enough. The woman who loved me, I didn't love or again...not enough. I am a easy person to get along with..but despite the magical moment....most of the woman I were with were largely taken up with their jobs, money...ect. I had to face the fact that I was not the chief priority in their life.
I was always trying to figure out how to make them see how perfect we would be for each other. It seemed absurd that these woman who were accomplished, sensitive woman couldn't recognize the mistake they were making in placing so much more importance on everything else than our relationship. Why didn't they understand that life is about sharing love. The possibility that I might not be everything they were looking for a guy was one I was frankly unprepared to consider. NO!!, this was definitely about there misplaced values, not about me. Everything would be perfect as soon as they got straighten out.
I would sometimes try to make them need me, while at the same time convincing them that it would be bad and wrong if they hesitated to commit. On the other hand they would see what a great time we had when we were together and what an ideal utterly undemanding husband I would make. On the other hand, I would find subtle ways to show them how hurt I was by their neglect.
I was trying to impose my will on my ex. Give your ex-girlfriend complete freedom to make up their mind about our relationship without reference to my needs and desire. What if I gave them a choice and they left. Most woman think that love relationship involved suffering and sacrifice. They could either give up the things they want to please a me, or else do what was best for themselves at the cost of hurting me.
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