We choose the people with whom we get involved..either consciously or unconsciously. They are mirror image of our interior landscape. So when we blame other for their failing, are we not blaming some part of ourselves? the thing that bother us the most about others people is usually something within ourselves? If you are irritated or upset by some body's behavior, if you find yourself being extremely reactive to your partner or another person, it is worthwhile to look within and find the part of yourself. When I am triggered by somebody, I ask the question of myself, what is it within me that is so reactive? It is not them,,, they are just being who they are. It is me...my feelings and reactivity. The thing of blaming our partner is that underneath it is the idea that if they would just change, we could finally be happy. You might as well put yourself in psychic jail and give the key to somebody else.
The time couple spend together produce happiness. We are looking at beautiful view, talking about meaningful things, enjoying nature...everything is perfect. Later, we might be stuck in traffic,and there is no reason that won't be perfect too. ...how? by accepting that everything passes: people, jobs, work, planets, Nothing last. Accept that basic truth and become free to enjoy what is here and now. Don't allow the mind to rob you of it.
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