For two people to be happy together, they have to feel their needs are being met. But there's not a soul on earth who can meet your needs if you don't know what they are. Getting to know them is a crucial step to giving your partner a fair shot at loving you the way you want to be loved.You can be intimate with someone only when you share that side of yourself, when you are both willing to say, " I love you enought to let you in. I am entrusting you with the most fragile part of my soul. It's one of the most scariest and most difficult things you'll ever do, because it leaves you completely vulnerable. You have to be ready to reveal your most private thoughts, what scares you, what your hopes and dreams are for yourself and your relationship.
Your partner can't read your mind. Until you can be clear about what you want, you make it difficult for him or her to love you. He's left guessing or lost---not an effective strategy for a good relationship. You must tell your partner that a part of you assumes that those you love will leave. Tell him or her what you need in order to be convinced that he or she has no intention of disappearing.
When you learn your partner's needs ...you must strive to fulfill them. Here is the hardest part of being in a relationship and were most people fail to do. I personally have sexual needs, emotionally need that I need to be fulfilled. Most people just don't want to do it because it might go against what they think, or their boundaries...or whatever. Love is a verb. You must show your love..meaning exploring the little things you can do to improve each other's lives. Ask yourself how you can make his day better. Is there some way you can help him decompress? Simply holding your love in your heart is not enough. Acts of kindness, affection, and support accumulate across time to create positive.
To me physical intimacy is crucial part of any relationship. Most people let it fall off their TO-DO LIST. But you need to prevent day-today- life from crowding sex out. Either you're going to do what it takes to mesh with your man or you won't
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