DATING: IF YOUR INTEREST LEVEL IS LOW FROM THE GET GO

-If your interest level is low from the get go, this won't go anywhere. I am not here to chase anyone. “The chase” is a game. Here’s some truth: If a woman wants you, you will know.If a woman wants you, she won’t play games. If a woman wants you, you won’t have to chase her. A woman wants to be pursued, she wants to be courted. What she doesn’t want is

If a woman wants you, she won’t play hard to get…but she won’t be too easy either. She won’t play by bullshit societal dating rules of waiting for you to call, or never sending two texts in a row. If she wants you, you’ll know where you stand. If she’s thinking of you, she’ll call, and if she wants to hang out, she’ll ask. If she wants to kiss you first, she will. Her intentions will show through her actions, and she won’t be afraid to express her feelings or show you she cares.

What happened to the old-fashioned notion that it should be quite simple if two people like one another? The simplicity of elementary notes asking “do you like me, check yes or no,” is long gone. We’ve made things so complex that modern dating just messes with our heads. Unsure if we should call first because we don’t want to seem needy, refusing to use labels, overthinking text messages, and always trying to play it cool? What have we come to?

When someone wants you, man or woman, they will show interest. They will pursue you. I like to be pursued and I PROMISE I WOULD PURSE YOU AS WELL.

So ask yourself before you even sent a message....am i what you want? If i am then show me...give me attention and make things easy and I will do the same. I am not here to play games.


-One of the way to show me that you are serious is actually give me your number. I am not there to go back and forth. I want to actually talk to you and get to know you before we meet.

-Finally, if we do meet. Be ready to commit to a relationship from day one. I am not here to go on hundred dates. I was thinking that I have tried traditional way before and it didn’t work out  and I was thinking: ‘Why not have that commitment to actually making a relationship work from the very start?’ I’m not interested in just going on dates looking for things I don’t like about that person. I’m committing to making this relationship absolutely work – like they did in the old days. “It’s traditional, older generations might have only met their partner once or twice before getting relationship.

You think you know people, but it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with someone for, they can surprise you and not in a good way I was with my ex wife for five years and she turned out to not be capable of treating me right. You just don’t know.

ARTICLE : Warren Buffett, Melinda Gates and Sheryl Sandberg agree: This is the most important decision you'll ever make Kathleen Elkins

 the HBO documentary, "Becoming Warren Buffett," the Oracle of Omaha says that there were "two turning points" in his life: "One when I came out of the womb and one when I met Susie."

"What happened with me would not have happened without her," Buffett said of his first wife, who died in 2004.

In fact, the billionaire says, the biggest decision of your life will be who you choose to marry.

"You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you'd like to be. You'll move in that direction," Buffett said in a conversation with Bill Gates at Columbia University in 2017. "And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can't overemphasize how important that is."

Melinda Gates, who runs the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation with her husband, agrees.

"If you choose to have a partner in life, whoever you choose is probably the most important decision you make," she said during a conversationwith her husband Bill and hundreds of high school students in New York City on Tuesday. It's "even more important than what career you have, where you go to college, where you go to high school."

That said, if you don't make the right choice initially, don't panic. "You can have a do-over. People do have a do-over with partners in life, but it's easier to have a do-over in your job and to change careers a lot than it is to change partners," she said. "So I say, try to pick very carefully and wisely."

Facebook COO and author Sheryl Sandberg, whose late husband, Dave Goldberg, was the CEO of SurveyMonkey, has a similar perspective. "I truly believe that the single most important career decision that a woman makes is whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is," she writes in her best-seller "Lean In."

"I don't know of one woman in a leadership position whose life partner is not fully — and I mean fully — supportive of her career."

These claims are backed by research. One study, by Brittany C. Solomon and Joshua J. Jackson of Washington University in St. Louis, shows that having a conscientious spouse can boost your salary significantly.

"With every one-standard-deviation increase in a spouse's conscientiousness, an individual is likely to earn approximately $4,000 more per year," the Harvard Business Review reports.

Additionally, "employees with extremely conscientious spouses (two standard deviations above the mean) are 50 percent more likely to get promoted than those with extremely unconscientious spouses (two standard deviations below the mean)."

Conscientious spouses tend to handle a lot of household tasks, which allows their partner to focus more on their career. And people tend to benefit from mirroring their conscientious spouses' diligent habits, the research team finds.

As Gates put it in NYC on Tuesday: "You will affect a partner greatly in life and they will affect you."

PERSONAL: I HATE DATING APPS

I, like many online daters, have been swiping for years. Whenever I find myself in need of a thumb-twiddling activity, I fire up dating apps and aimlessly trawl through a bottomless pit of faces. I fling messages at a few of the matches I fancy, but things usually fizzle out after an initial flirtation. I stockpile matches like they're going out of fashion, but when it comes to actual meaningful engagement, there's very little going on. 

It has become more of a game right now than a tool for looking for a relationship. When I get a match, I tend to message the woman but often they don't reply or if they do, the conversation is usually boring or very one sided, so I stop messaging.You match with someone that you think you could really like and the conversation never takes off because it's easier to not reply to a message or not open an app than it would be to ignore someone if you met in real life or traditional way

So, if swiping's not working, why not just delete the apps? I've had this conversation with a lot of my friends and we all have expressed a dislike for dating apps, but continue to use them because it seems to be the way it works now. For those looking for meaningful connections, the gamification of dating apps can be demoralising... "utterly soul-destroying" due to the lack of interaction. I keep going back in the hope that maybe something might come of it

Someone figure out that it takes 7,500 profiles before connecting with someone 'meaningfully


Feeling an initial spark with someone is thrilling and a sought after experience for many woman. If they don’t have that initial spark with someone, most woman feel as they are settling. If you’re repeatedly dating the same type of partner without success, you may be feeling an initial spark with partners that aren’t a good match.When you’re very attracted to someone, you are more likely to overlook red flags and signs that you’re incompatible with them.


So why am I single?

Do I tell her it’s because “I'm so busy,” knowing damn well I spent all of last Sunday fully in my bed?
Do I say I’ve been “focusing on me,” as if I don’t have six dating apps clogging up storage on my phone?
Or do I tell her that nearly every spark I’ve felt with a woman in the past three years has either led to ghosting or getting the “I’m not looking for anything serious right now” convo?

When I talk to a woman the first question I ask is "So, can you tell me what’s wrong with you now so I don’t have to waste my time here?” without sugarcoating it. Because that’s ultimately what the person wants to know, right? Like, Oh, can I handle that you have an obvious fear of commitment given the explanation you just told me? Probably not. And just like that...