Sunday, July 26, 2015

DATING: SEEING THE SAME PEOPLE OVER AND OVER AGAIN

As I wade through the seemingly endless parade of Internet people in search of a partner, perhaps the most eerie, is seeing the same faces over and over on various sites for years, The phenomenon serves as a subtle reminder that we are all still single, breeding a strange familiarity whether we match or not.

Who are all these people, with stories and life histories of their own? I’m not sure. Why are we encountering the same people over and over again? I have a few ideas. Here are some thoughts on why we’re matching with the same people over and over and over again, and how to turn that phenomenon around.

 The moment you decide to scroll through for potential partners, there’s this illusion of options upon options. One date, no matter how good, can hardly live up to all the awesome fun you could be having with a “potentially perfect” match that still awaits you. As if that person even exists

It’s not uncommon to find men and women who are on the hunt for better and better — or to see how good they can get. How do you know? They are loath to commit It’s easy to fall into this trap: swipe, match, move on with your life. Of course, the people you see over and over again could also just be coincidentally unattached at the same times that you are.

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