PERSONAL: NORMALCY

It’s funny, because when you ask people what they are looking for in a mate, you most often hear adjectives like: smart, good looking, great job, must have chemistry, similar interests…you know, the basics. However, I fell that none were even remotely impressive enough to warrant a fourth or more date. There is is one thing people seem to be missing these days. Normalcy. Normalness. (It’s a word, right?) Recently, it seems like there is nothing but drama, fakery, rich crazy housewives, Jersey Shore, and the one up sickness. It’s like everyone has to have some sort of crazy issue surrounding them. I mean, excitement is fun and all, but sometimes, you just want someone to be a normal person. No drama, no extreme issues, no quirky hangups, no excessive baggage – just cool and normal. Obviously you can’t control situations dealt to you – that doesn’t make you NOT normal. You can accept the cards you are dealt. You have the ability to move forward in a positive fashion without playing the blame game every chance you get. That’s the normal I’m talking about. It’s a compliment beyond all compliments really. There are tons of hot people out there, they’re a dime a dozen, especially if you live in NY. There are tons of talented people out there. Tons of smart people too. But normal…not tons.When I meet a woman who is normal.....folks! Bells and sirens are going off in the my background. I have won the prize — a normal woman! she has a job she actually likes!  She exercise, but she’s not a crazy work out freak. She likes to go out and she’s cool staying in. She likes music – the same kind of music She’s not angry or bitter. She’s battled his demons and forgiven the wrongs of her past. She doesn’t feel like she has to prove anything to anyone. We have great conversation. She calls when she says she will, but she’s not needy or overbearing. She respects me and gives me space, but not too much space. It seems so natural. So normal.