FANS: SHOULD I MARRY A UGLY GIRL....A FAN ASK

Being brought up my mother and father divorced, and I stayed with my father alot. My dad would always say to me growing up "son when you grow up I want you to marry an ugly woman" I use to laugh at this comment made by my father. I mean who wants to marry an ugly woman? But, now that I'm older, I see my father's point of view. My ex fiancee was drop dead gorgeous, infact she was miss teen for New Mexico back in 1997. What bothered me the most about her looks was the other men. Even though she wore my engagement ring other men would always hit on her, and she would come home and tell me what happend that day, it drove me nutts, I actually had to ask her please stop telling me this everyday. There was always something like competition going on within me, like if I was good enough to keep this woman because so many men wanted her. It's hard to be with a beautiful woman. What do the guys think about this? Should men marry ugly women? At least we know they will stay true   no no my woman never cheated on me, I'm not saying a beautiful will cheat on you, I'm saying for a man it's hard because of the other men who want's her also. This is what drove my parents to a divorce, and I've seen many marriages end because of this. She did throw her looks around. Example:When my ex would get pulled over by a cop she would undo alittle of her shirt to expose cleavage, she had beautiful breast, the best I've ever seen. And, in the seven years we were together, she never ONCE got a ticket. And she's been pulled over many times, she has a heavy foot hehe. Also we went out to buy tires, I was across the street ordering food. And the man at the tire store gave her 50% off, then when I walked in the tire store, he was trying to raise the price back up. She spoke to a Supervisor and got her way AGAIN. There are many other things I could say, but these stand out at the moment. 

I know that she will get hit on, I understood that walking into the relationship, she's hot and there is no doubt about it. However, does this give her the right to come home and give me details about it every single day? I don't think so.. Yes we split up because of HER insecurities, she's a great mother to my baby girl, and a wonderful friend, but her insecurities were far to much to handle on a daily basis. Sure ugly women will cheat, but probably will not have as many opportunities as a hot woman. But, this is off topic, I'm not here asking if a ugly or hot women cheats or not, that depends on the woman themselves. The topic here is if I marry a ugly woman as told to me by my father, then I would not have as many problems in the relationship built upon her appearance. Because, many hot women do let it go to their head, this I also learned through experience, as men also do.

MY ADVICE:
If she is beautiful, you have to expect other guys to be staring at her and paying attention to her. It just depends how she handles their advances. If she is decent, she will let the guy(s) know she is not available. You have to respect her and trust her that she can handle them on her own. Most likely she will ask for your help if the guy doesn't understand the word "No". Of course, there are some meat heads that think they can just muscle you out of the way. Just use your individual persuasion tactics with them.

A self confident, secure man would not mind that other men found his wife/girlfriend attractive. In fact, some (I suspect) would be rather pleased. The savings on speeding tickets and tires is just a bonus!!! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...so even the women you may consider to be 'ugly' will have their admirers... It is up to the woman to tell the guys to back off...and she was definitely telling you about it to get a rise out of you! Good looking people sometimes have low self esteem especially if they don't believe they have much else aside from their looks going for them! So...they have to boost the self esteem at the expense of others....Marry the person you love...that simple...

I think sometimes not so socially attractive people are more beautiful on the inside because they can't just rely on looks to get attention, they work on being genuine and showing their inner beauty. I also think many so called beautiful people are not so beautiful on the inside, like this fiance who seemed to be playing her looks to get you to feel insecure. I know many beautiful women who have had looks be a real detriment to their lives. Men want them for their looks, but feel insecure and treat them poorly. And no matter how good looking you are, it only takes on comment of "Your legs are too short" or "Your nose is too big" given by the wrong person at the wrong time to make them insecure and screwed up. My advice to anyone is be with someone who you are attracted to, on all levels. Often someone who you think is unattractive can suddenly become gorgeous when you see the light that shines from within.

Looks doesn't decide if the person will cheat or not....It all depends on the persons morals. Do not base your happiness on other people If an ugly girl cheats on you she is just as much a troll as if a hottie cheats on you.there are no ugly people btw..just the ones who are ugly inside.If you love someone enough to ask them to marry you, there's a good chance that you're going to think they're beautiful no matter what. At least I'd hope so... have this freaklike recall for the written word although I can rarely remember the authors....

Some look on the outside for a beauty that is true,
But to look deep inside is all you really have to do.
Real beauty is found deep within your heart and soul,
Or at least that is what I was told.
You don't have to have a body built like a brick house,
Or a face prettier than can be,
If you would only take a real hard look at me.
You would find the most amazing beauty of all,
That I keep stored within my heart and soul.

Seriously – it’s more than looks that matter. If your hung up is how she looks, then you may be with the wrong person. You should feel a connection with the person. You should feel like the luckiest guy in the world every morning you wake up next to her. You should never feel threatened by the way she looks – regardless of whether others think she is beautiful or ugly. Its what’s between the two of you that matters.

Attractive women MAKE themselves attractive...and liking men has something to do with that many times...Generally, attractive women like guys more, if only for the reason that attractive people get treated better; although I'm sure you can find MANY exceptions to this...I think the main thing is that you have to have a sense about what the person's about on the inside. Evidently, your fiancee gauged her own self-esteem by the way guys were attracted to her and she really didn't care much about anything else.. maybe because she was shallow, or maybe just immature... incapable of treating guys better than a mirror that talks or something...Vanity will do that. That may have been her story, but there are LOTS of attractive women who aren't like that and don't even care for alot of public attention from men; believe it or not. Conversely, some physically unattractive people have a mean streak from being treated badly for the way they look... and if you go with them just to have someone to feel superior to...and they sense this even if you don't act it; it's going to make them feel even worse. In fact, they might jerk you around just for the sake of saying they could do it. If you're not attracted to the person, you should just leave them alone. It's not good for either of you

There are moral beautiful women and immoral beautiful women, and the same with ugly women. I have to say in my case I would lean towards the average woman. I think you can marry a ugly women that is immoral and she will still run around on you. Obviously, there are guys out there that search out ugly women and lots of them don't care if a women is "taken" or not. To side track somewhat; I used to think there were more immoral men than women until I started visiting the chat rooms when the internet first started out in 1996.........OH MY GOD, I sure hope chat rooms aren't an example of the population of the world. If it is, there is no point in people even getting married, because it seems like both men and women married or not are just out for one thing and it is soooooooooooo sooooooooo sad.

Here is a thought that I have played around with in my mind. What if a jet with a couple of hundred people on board was flying over the ocean and something happened to the plane and down everyone went, but only a man and a woman lived through the downing of the plane?They woke up the next day laying on a beach of a desert island? I believe with all my heart that no matter what, after a few months, they would begin to be attracted to each other. It could be a fifty year old man and a twenty year old woman or even a corpulent fifty year old man and a beautiful twenty year old woman and I bet dollars to donuts it wouldn't take them long and a romance would begin, however when a ship comes, I am also sure that the romance would soon be over even if she came back pregnant. So, you ask what is my thinking? Focus on the heart and not the outside and just hope you made the right choice and if you did, then she will remain true to you, for fifty years.

There are no ugly women....repeat after me..there are no ugly women. Ugly is on the inside where it can't be seen. Ugly is watching a child being beaten or starving in the streets. Ugly is discrimination/racism. Ugly is watching someone you love die. Ugly is one of the most morbid words I know and to use it to describe a woman you love? Everyone is beautiful and unique in their own way they may not be beautiful in the looks department but their personality is what makes us all beautiful there is alot of shallow people out there and it's unfortunate but it's life once you find a women no matter how she looks and she respects you for you and makes you happy you'll know if a women constantly brags about other guys hitting on her there's definitely something to be suspicious about but in the end it didn't work out after all. As it may seem you experienced it yourself you can have the hottest girl in the world but she could have a shallow heart but then you can get the average looking women who have a heart of gold.A woman being ugly is no guarantee that she will not cheat! For one thing, everyone has something that someone else will find attractive. For another, let's face it, women have a much easier time getting laid than men do, and if she wants to cheat, she will find a way. The secret is not to marry an ugly woman, it is to marry a woman that you can trust, no matter what she looks like; and also to be secure enough in yourself to know that you are good enough and she loves you.

I have seen this with my patients time and time again , I had a patient that had problem with women , he loved very beautiful women but he had problems with them , he was so nice they walked all over him , he chose the most ugliest girl he knew , was a good friend , years later he is still happily married and has 3 children , I asked him if he is happy , he answers yes always . His wife inspired and motivated him to be more than a gardener , he is now an airplane pilot for british airways or some airline like that and has small delivery company . This guy is pretty good looking , looks like a young peirce brosnan (spelling) with the muscles of conan . She has a very big nose , small eyes , almost noo boobs or butt, frizzy hair and has very thin lips , she is not horrible but nothing to see for almost any guy. I asked him if he married one of those women that he was really attracted to if he would have been still married , he said he would have been divorced like them . Being the way they were, they believed that life was their game and that they deserved alot more than they could get , they were used to be the center of attention and used to receive life's rewards constantly and get what they want.The ugly woman he said usually were more humble , did not always get what they wanted , they compromised more and accepted what they could get , they were used to having people make not nice remarks to them , they love it when someone is interested in their friendship , especially males , they want the attention other women get and when they get it they are "happy" and appreciative.He learn to love her , he loves her alot and it shows , he is a family guy 100 percent , he says he is one of the fortunate .