FAN: A FAN WHO SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND

I do submit completely to my husband. I have an awesome marriage. I couldn't't be happier. He loves me and would never ask me to do something that would be wrong or hurt me. On the day I made my wedding vows I surrendered myself to his will. I promised to love, honor and obey him. My marriage is still young and I am still learning the best ways to fulfill my vows. But one thing I have learned is that submission is key to a good marriage.

He is the man of the house and I am his woman. He makes me feel loved, protected and cherished. I know he would do anything for me and I would do anything for him.

I would hate it if he did not allow me to submit to him. I have discovered that my submission makes me feel feminine and complete. I don't know why...maybe its because this is my destiny? This is how its supposed to be?

My marriage is like a beautiful, harmonious dance. He leads and I follow. There is never tension or disharmony. I see so many unhappy women. They scoff at my desire to please my husband. I cook and clean...I keep myself pretty and available for his pleasure. They laugh at me and call me old fashion. But, why am I the happy one and they are the ones who spend our lunches bitching about their men?

What does obeying my husband mean on a daily basis? Well here are a couple examples...

1- I call him and ask if its OK when I want to buy something not usually in the budget. He keeps track of our income and so he knows what we can afford. He usually says yes, but if he says no, he explains why. (And I usually get a surprise present later when we CAN afford it)

2- I ask him when I want to have friends over or go out with my girl friends. He rarely says no. He loves that I ask him...It makes him want to make me happy.

3-He knows he can always have me whenever, wherever. I obey his sexual desires. How horrible, right? I have to have sex all the time! What woman wants to *** more then once a day?? (That was sarcasm in case you didn't catch it LOL)

4-I never argue with him in front of others! (I hate seeing wives being shrewish in public! It emasculates their men) I almost never argue even in private...and If I behave badly, I apologize and usually give him my best blow job with him standing and me kneeling...I like doing this because it helps put me in a submissive mind set and it turns me on a lot!

If I disagree with him I will quietly and privately let him know what my opinion is. If I present my thoughts logically and am respectful of his opinion, he generally takes my opinion into consideration. If he does not...I submit to him and he appreciates me all the more for it.

5-He likes my nails done so I try to keep them manicured and painted. My girlfriends even scoff at this small effort on my part to please...Even though they usually do the same thing anyway. Its as if because my husband asks me to, I now suddenly shouldn't as a matter of principal...I really do not understand this obstinate nature many of my girlfriends have!

So my point is that submitting doesn't make me a slave, It simply creates harmony. I obey him of my own free will and he accepts my gift of submission and never makes unreasonable demands. He knows I would do anything he requests so he is all the more considerate of me. Does that make sense? (even if he did make unreasonable demands I wouldn't't break my rule. It is my chosen lifestyle...complete submission to my husband. I have seen many failed or miserable marriages and a few good ones...The good ones always have a wife who honors and respects her husband and she always submits to some degree. I want a good marriage.)

To sum up my views on how a woman should behave in marriage. Respect, Honor and Obey. Keep the home clean and cook healthy, wholesome food he will enjoy, Keep yourself neat and presentable. You reflect your husbands character and he should always be proud to present you to friends and co-workers. Be available and enthusiastic sexually. Teach your children to respect and obey their father as their protector and provider.

I have a wonderful husband who deserves my submission. And I have noticed that the more respect I show him the harder he works to earn my trust and confidence. What more could I ask for?

Everyday I feel cherished and loved. I feel feminine and I revel in my femininity. I take pride and joy in my husbands masculinity. I submit and I love submitting. I am protected. I am loved. I am perfectly content.





My Opinion:


What you said about creating a safe, loving environment is key to a healthy d/s or taken in hand relationship. Remember that you are taking on a great responsibility. Your stewardship of your wife’s emotional health and well-being requires you to be vigilant, never take your position as the HoH lightly and never be negligent. With power comes responsibility and the more power you have the greater your responsibility is. I think it’s important to demand a certain level of respect while taking your wife's feelings and opinions into consideration. For instance, if you tell her no then tell her why, but not in a way that sounds like you are defending yourself; tell her in a way that conveys confidence in your decision. Gentle and firm is the best way to take control. Anger is your worst enemy. If she can make you angry then she has that much power over you AND she probably secretly despises the anger as a sign of weakness. If you cannot control your own emotions and responses to her actions than how can she trust you to control hers? If your wife is stubborn, brainwashed by today's "feminists," or if you just feel she will not be receptive to the idea of submitting due to a misunderstanding of what it means then I would suggest starting in the bedroom. Take small steps. Be dominating in bed. It will bleed into your everyday life. Most women I have spoken with wanted to “try the submission thing” in the bedroom. They wanted that primal feeling of being “taken” claimed, or marked as their man’s. Then after the novelty of this new game wore off they wanted to take it further. They slowly get further and further into this new, intoxicating world (that is actually far more natural then they realize considering that for thousands of years most women were submissive to their men) and now are living an intirley D/S lifestyle and loving every minute of it (or at least most of the time... nobody’s perfect of course) I think most women want to submit and will do so if given an opportunity. So often, however, our brains get in the way screaming protests involving "evil male dominance" and "losing our true identity” and so on. It's hard to ignore these voices since that rubbish is what woman have been spoon fed since kids. Best advice I can think of is be consistent, be strong, if you mess up admit it to her. Just take control. Tell her yes or no. Tell her what you want and be sure you are clear. If she does not submit then I would suggest straight out telling her you except to be obeyed and there will be consequences for disobedience. Most important; make sure you are the sort of man who deserves the absolute trust that true submission requires. Don’t abuse your powers.