THOUGHTS: WE ARE NOT THE ONLY ONES HURTING..

We all have stories about our suffering. Most of them are narcissistic stories, narratives in which the self is the exclusive focus....making the connection between our personal pain and the pain of the world get us out of the isolation that the dark emotions tends to impose...how dare the world go on turning...how can the sun shine as usual after what happened to me?....the answer is...the world turns as it does precisely because your ego is not at the center of it. There is a part of us that didn't entirely grow up, that would like to believe that the rules don't apply to us. Sickness and sadness can happen to others, but we deserve better because we are good people...because we are smart, honest...

Some things that happen to people are authentically tragic...losing your life saving, losing a loved one. losing a loved one, but most of the things that frustrate our hopes and derail our plans are aggravation when they happen but ultimately fall short of the level of tragedy. Life has taught us to keep in mind that we are not the only ones hurting, would have us think. All right things like this happen to alot of people and they got over it. I'll hurt but I'll get over it too. Life is a chain of good days and bad. I've just had a bad day. so there ought t o be good days ahead

The hard way to learn that most disappointment in your life are relatively trivial..is to have something serious happen to you. The easier less painful way to learn that lesson is to learn it from other people's experience rather than our own. Remember misfortune should not set you apart from other happy, healthy people. It should connect you to all the other hurting people, and that means pretty much everyone.

We lose something, something we never really had, when we give up the infantile fantasy that the world exist to meet our needs, but we gain something as well. There is something liberating about the insight that we may be unique but we are not indispensable. this realization that we are not God may be hard for our ego to accept...but ultimately it will be better for our soul.