A man, without his word, is nothing. Keeping your word in my world is a given. We quickly learn not to say we will deliver on something we know we can't, whether it's promising to pay someone back, keeping a secret secret , or saying we'll do a favor we won't follow through on.
If you are like me, you hate those cafones who wiggle around a question that puts them on the spot. Let's call them wigglers. You know the type of guy I'm talking about: you ask him something and he'll say, "I don't know, maybe, I'll find out, we'll see."
The same principle follows when you make a promise. When you say, "I promise" or "you have my word," it's a done deal. Period. You do as promised. That's it, that's all.
Only a stupid man would give his word or promise something he knows he can't deliver. The dumb wiggler who puts himself in this situation eventually has to lie and BS his way out of his promise to save face, but it's too late. In the eyes of the person he let down, his word means nothing now. It's like respect and trust; it takes a lifetime to get and it takes only one stupid move to lose it.
Like I said before, when you promise something, the other person must assume it's a done deal. Your word should be like currency. It's money in the bank for someone who is counting on it. That being said, you shouldn't dole it out over everything and anything, or it will lose its value. Because your word is like currency, you must give it only when the occasion is important enough to call for it. The person you are promising something to must be able to recognize that your promise has value . You don't give money out to every Tony, Dino and Nick do you? Why do the same with your word?
When you are faced with a situation where you are asked for something (whether it's a favor, a contact, doing some job), and you know you can't deliver, admit it. Tell them you don't believe in false promises. It's simple. Don't wiggle or skirt the issue. If, in the end, you can make good on whatever was asked of you, it will only make you look better in the eyes of the other person.
The first time you are asked for an important favor in which you must give your word, make sure you give it your 100% effort. First impressions count. I learn a lot from a man after I ask him for a favor. If he keeps his promise fully and completely without any hint of an excuse or hesitation, he has gained my respect. He set the tone properly from day one. So make sure you have the story straight on that first favor. You don't want to be calling back whoever you've
made a promise to with questions two days later.
Even if you've been screwed over more times than a one-legged prostitute, you should never back down from your word. I don't care if you don't trust your own shadow. If you are in a situation where you have promised something, you do it. Period.
Just remember who tends to break the most promises: politicians. What does that tell you? That's enough for today.
So why do some people flirt and cheat outside their relationship? The answer is simple---lack or respect and value for the other person. Broken down, the word respect means: re: gain and spect: to look at. Therefore, true social respect is to "look at again" or review what you could lose in the relationship. It makes you focus on the level of pain your mind will go through as a consequence of your actions. The decision itself takes less than a second. The jury, in anyone's mind, votes if this action is worth the pain it might go through later. In other words, how valuable you believe the original person you're considering cheating (i.e. how fast you can get off the hook providing you are caught) will ultimately control your decision.
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