The difference between your soul and that of our ego is that your soul believe love is real and fear is not, while ego believes that fear is real and love is not. When you allow your ego to direct your search for love, you are actually asking the only thing in the universe that doesn't know what love is, to find it for you.
What is the ego?
God is love.We want to forget that we are GOD for a while, so that we could play at being creators ourselves. And since everything that God creates is a perfect reflection of divine love, the only way we could generate an experience that would be our uniquely our own was to make up an imperfect world where love's opposite--fear would appear to rule. Thus fear is our own original contribution to an otherwise loving universe.
The ego's problem is that any experience of love, however attenuated, threatens to trigger our memory of reality, and spoil the game we game to play. Its job is to make sure that doesn't happen. We compare the ego to the weight belt a scuba diver dons to counteract her natural buoyancy. If a diver took off her weight belt, we would quickly bob back up to the surface. If you and I released identification with our ego, we would quickly bob back into reality, where it would be apparent that love is everywhere. The fact is that whenever we genuinely care for anyone, we do bob back to reality, although briefly. That's why being in love is so heavenly.
Our ego knows perfectly well that love is the only thing we really want or need. This leave us with no alternative but to become embroiled in our search for the one. When your ego offers to help you find love, it doesn't mean real love---the unconditional kind that fills you, and those around you. To find that kind of love would meant the death of your ego and you will only relate only with your soul. No, the kind of love your ego has in mind for you is something quite different.
You see, the human romantic dilemma isn't that true love is so very hard to fin, but that it is too ordinary to withstand comparison with the exotic illusions our ego offers in its place. Infatuation ravishes our senses, and seems to promise gratification beyond our wildest dreams. Unfortunately, when we mistake it for the genuine article, we slowly starve for love even as we seem to gorge ourselves on it. Real love is actually characterized by simple virtues...like patience, forgiveness, tolerance, humor, gentleness, empathy, tact, honesty, and practical support.
Most woman I think met alot of nice guys with a great sense of humor,,...but think because of looks or whatever that this person is not my type. Nice feel awfully good, but it is of no use whatsoever to our ego in its quest for glory. He's a nice guy but I'm not attracted to him.Beside don't you think he's kind of boring? For the ego, boring is a code word meaning--not likely to betray, frustrate, or neglect me as I once thought my parents did. Oh, and I love when people say, "You can't control your heart, can you? The problem isn't the heart, but the misplaced allegiance to the ego. When we identify with our ego's point of view, we think it is ours. We imagine that in pusuing the partners who attract it, we are doing what we want. What they don't get is that you might met someone who appeals to your ego and takes you to expensive restaurants dinner and trendy parties....they might look fabulous together...but that is where it ends. At the end of the relationship most woman who were madly in love with that type of guy only a few hours earlier,,, will find themselves longing for the moment when he is gone. They will realize that all the rich, handsome, sophisticated guys they were dating was a indication of how shallow they were. Their relationship were all about romantic fantasy and looking good in public. Not of these men they dated was anyone they could confide in. All they wanted was a beautiful woman they could show off.
You see...you have to pay more attention to the way being with a man feel than to your ego's idea about how an ideal relationship is suppose to look. I can only tell you from my experience that being someone who is your soulmate makes you like yourself when you are with them. When I tried being myself with other woman, I always picked up a kind of subtle disapproval, so I'd go back to trying to be what I thought they wanted. I figured the only way to win the prize (PUSSY AND LOVE) was to play the game, and do whatever was necessary to make her like me.
When you are with someone who like you...they accept you completely and that acceptance will encourage you to come out of hiding. The strange thing is that you will have no idea how much of yourself you were hiding. That person will give you something that you never knew you could have...and that is being cherished.
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