LOVE: THE CURRENCY OF LOVE

Men are chasing beautiful woman (sex) and woman are chasing powerful men (money). I think both sex will make the mistake of identify either sex or power as necessary for their happiness. This kind of objectification that prevents us from actually seeing the other person in front of our eyes. How often do men look beyond physical beauty to see a woman's inner beauty. How often do woman overlook a man's achievement to see what lies in his heart. How often have men, drawn by outer beauty, found out the hard way the the beautiful woman, after a lifetime of having doors open because of her beauty, hasn't developed an interesting intellect or personality? Or, even worse, has become narcissist. And how often have women, drawn by a man's external success and power in the outside world found out that they are actually insecure, overcompensating, and incapable of intimacy, workaholic and not available? It is false currency...beauty or power.

We take a deep breath and find some spaciousness around the desire. We notice other things. How kind are they? How do they treat the people around them? How are they in the world, loose and rolling with it, or tight and impatient? In the core of this kind or objectification is a kind of spiritual hunger, even when we don't know it. It is like a person who has alot of sex without knowing that what he or she is looking for love...trust me...this is form experience. Into this emptiness we pour possessions and experience, attempting to ameliorate our loneliness and separation. The less connected we are with our true selves, the less aware we are of our interior landscape, and the more we pile on either material possessions or other people to make us feel important and good about ourselves.

The very process of trying to fill ourselves up with external possessions or people leaves one feeling empty and lonelier than ever. When the looks fade or the money disappears in an unexpected job loss, what is left? At the core of every successful relationships is the warmth and support of friendship---taking the other person as they are, without their so called currency.