DATING can be a challenge. I'm sorry, let me rephrase: It suuuuuuuuccckkkkksssss. Why am I not getting more matches? Why didn't they respond? But is it my fault, or the app's? Is it really possible to find true love with just your thumbs? I set out on a journey to find out, and it starts with defining love itself.
Everyone want the same thing.....Someone that makes me laugh. Someone that's empathetic. Someone that gets me snacks. But how do you filter for that? Common interests and values are the types of things we're all looking for in relationships, how can we be expected to find them in an app that sorts for first-glance aesthetics and the ability to write one clever sentence about yourself? It's Romance Roulette. Your filters aren't set for love; they're set for lust. Dating apps reward homogeneity, sifting everyone into two-dimensional profiles that look the same, sound the same. Hookups and temporary flings can be easy to find on apps, but when deep connections keep evading you
People don't love each other for what makes them the same; they love them for what makes them unique. I wanted someone sexually insatiable, someone whose eyes set ablaze when they talked about something important to them. I wanted someone who was a good friend, someone who enjoyed being a blessing to those around them. I wanted someone to invest their love in me for exactly the things that make me different. For those looking for a simple standard, a dating app can provide you with a sea of able-bodied mates. I wanted more than a flat photo and a single sentence could provide.
it is hard to remember what dating was like in Los Angeles before the internet came along, but I remember — like it was yesterday …I went on coffee dates, dinner dates, drinks after work dates, and even a lunch date
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