I do expect sex on the first date and this might scary people off, but let me explain:
1-A lot of woman, if they have great chemistry with a guy will have sex with them on the first date. They will make it easy. Sheer attraction was the leading factors in their decision. Surprise surprise Women seem to like to talk about how pure they are and there’s this idealized romantic notion that we’re all going to be pure perfect people and saintly about how long we wait to share our sex organs. Then there’s the gritty reality, you either click and there’s chemistry, or you don’t. If the vibe is right and they like the person enough to want to go on a date with them, why not enjoy everything if they can? It doesn’t even mean if they will have to have a relationship — or even have a second date.
I can’t even find very many women who are marriage-minded anymore, they are looking for certain types of niche relationship that fit their busy lifestyles. They either get something from you, or they discard you and move onto the next. For the most part though woman like men with different sex organs, they have similar sexual wants and needs. Hit the right buttons and they will be just as interested in sex as you are. Screw it up and you can be left waiting, and paying, and waiting, and paying.
2-Some woman are like "I make you wait because you are boyfriend material" while letting other guys hit in in the first 20 minutes. That will make your "boyfriend" feel real good right? Other guys could hit it within minutes but he had to wait because he was "special". This doesn't make me feel special at all. What is the point of letting one guy get rewarded and another guy getting nothing. If you can't see how much of a catch I am and will make me wait, then I am not special enough for you. Don't waste my time, because I am not going to waste your. Don't act like a virgin with me and a slut with some other guy
3-Sex is not casual for me. If we have sex, we are in a relationship. Period. I don't go on a lot of dates..hences I don't sleep with a lot of woman anymore. Women are more hesitant to jump into bed than men are, for good reason. Women have to screen for creeps and monsters, not to mention dudes who will rhapsodize about the tender romance they really want, and then take off as soon as they get a blowjob. Men are, of course, deceived in this fashion too, but not as often, and they tend not to worry about the woman getting violent. So, it’s men who usually have to prove they’re sex-worthy. As a result, it’s seen as kind of a win when a woman wants to sleep with you on the first date. You’re charming enough that you, a random schlub picked off an online dating site, has earned a woman’s trust. You’ve cast a beautiful spell over her, and now she can’t resist — she just has to see how your impeccably sculpted muscles ripple as you do, well, whatever.
4-I believe in sex on the first date, I had an experience where I had been dating a woman for a few months before the first time, then we did it and it was bad. And weird. Easily the worst sex of my life. If we had done it earlier, I would have saved myself some time and energy. When you go to somebody’s profile and read through the things they’ve written, and sometimes you might go through the questions, and you get a sense of the person before you even start chatting with them. That usually leads to questions that probe a little bit deeper, What are you dating for anyway if not to find a new person to sleep with? Lets me honest... Sure, you might want a partner and all of that relationship stuff, but sex is a pretty big deal. And do you really want to date someone you don’t vibe with sexually? So why not get right to the point and see if you have sexual chemistry? Yes, sometimes the first time sleeping with someone is not always their best performance, but it’s smart to at least get an idea how they work in bed.
5-Whether you sleep with someone within 15 minutes of meeting them or wait forever, there is no way to guarantee that any date will evolve into a long-term relationship, so at the end of the day
I don’t go on dates with women. I go on dates with women who want to be with me...who want a relationship with me.. We avoided the games, the manipulation, the fears, all the rest of planning relationship like we are gods and we can control fate, All that bullshit when to kiss, when to hold hands, when to touch and all this talk about where it’s all about some power game. To who text first, who calls first, and do you reply immediately or an hour later or a day later because it might look desperate. It’s just plain crazy adults behaving in this manner and we should have left these games and manipulation, and fears when we left school but there we go, it’s still there.
That’s why I make it clear in the beginning what I will not meet someone unless we have sex and that sex will end in a relationship and marriage down the line., I call it being direct. I call it screening out and attracting women who have similar understanding as I do about it all.
I do talk about sex. Yes. I do and I will know if she wants to string things along because she got an agenda of relationship but why would I ever consider relationship when then most important for me hasn’t been done….sex. Sex is important to me, I’m high sexual and love sex, and I don’t want to be with women who has issue about sex, see it as taboo or got a long line of beliefs and rules about it that come from social conditioning.
And when we do have sex, it not like we didn't have a connection before we see each other face to face. By that time, we talking on the phone, text...shared thoughts ...dream. If you went in there and had sex with virtually no connection established other than some playful, sexy banter and verbal foreplay, that will work against you in terms of being evaluated as a relationship partner. On the other hand, if you established a profound, deep, meaningful connection first before the sex, then there’s a possibility. Sex and relationship feelings are WORLDS apart for guys in the beginning – they are completely separate during the beginning of a relationship and then merge later on down the line (at the love stage). If you want a relationship, I would encourage you to find ways to connect on a deeper level. Let him know you… get to know him. Understand him, give him space to open up. If you want him to be more open with you, demonstrate openness.
That’s why I make it clear in the beginning what I will not meet someone unless we have sex and that sex will end in a relationship and marriage down the line., I call it being direct. I call it screening out and attracting women who have similar understanding as I do about it all.
I do talk about sex. Yes. I do and I will know if she wants to string things along because she got an agenda of relationship but why would I ever consider relationship when then most important for me hasn’t been done….sex. Sex is important to me, I’m high sexual and love sex, and I don’t want to be with women who has issue about sex, see it as taboo or got a long line of beliefs and rules about it that come from social conditioning.
And when we do have sex, it not like we didn't have a connection before we see each other face to face. By that time, we talking on the phone, text...shared thoughts ...dream. If you went in there and had sex with virtually no connection established other than some playful, sexy banter and verbal foreplay, that will work against you in terms of being evaluated as a relationship partner. On the other hand, if you established a profound, deep, meaningful connection first before the sex, then there’s a possibility. Sex and relationship feelings are WORLDS apart for guys in the beginning – they are completely separate during the beginning of a relationship and then merge later on down the line (at the love stage). If you want a relationship, I would encourage you to find ways to connect on a deeper level. Let him know you… get to know him. Understand him, give him space to open up. If you want him to be more open with you, demonstrate openness.
