DATING: IF YOU ARE WOMAN AND STILL NOT MARRIED.....YOU HAVE SOME BIG ISSUES

Something I've noticed about women in their late 30s and early 40s who never got married yet. I am not sure this is true among all, but the one's I've met...well, there's a reason why' they are still single.

A common theme is that they've ALMOST been married or had been engaged, or had come close. But for some reason they never actually sealed the deal.

The other common theme is that they spend years with the same man and never got him to propose. This one, I don't get. Why waste years with someone and not get the ring? What a waste of time!!!!!!!!!!

My take on this is the following. These woman have issues. PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

1- Very few men are attractive in my eyes. Don't believe me? OKCupid study shows women say 80% of men are "below average" looking. This is crazy. I have been with a lot of beautiful woman and average woman and even woman who were like Roseanna Bars. Just because someone is HOT. Doesn't mean they are a nice person. Another big thing I found, just because someone is HOT doesn't make them great in bed.

2-They are picky. It’s hard for them to meet a man who fits their high standards. In life, you will not find someone who has everything on your checklist. That person doesn't exist. Tell that to these woman.

Common items on their list:

-Tall
-Handsome
-Minimum of a masters degree,
-Like to travel
-Like to Eat
-Great physical shape
- Multi-lingual
-Kind
-Caring
-Has Money
-Intelligence

I could go on and on and on.......................

Even if they find 90% of what they are looking for that is still not enough...they still think they can someone who has 100%

They are more committed to a imaginary man that doesn't exist in their head rather than someone who is real ...who is not perfect.

3-Career. Some people choose to focus heavily on their careers in their youth. Their ladder of success is leaning against the wrong wall. Your job doesn't care about you at all. The moment you stop being productive you are out the door. You career won't be there when you get sick or anything else for that matter.

4- Commitmentphobia. There are plenty of people who want marriage or its equivalent, but have deep-seated fears about actually doing it. They get involved in relationships, then drag their feet when it comes to pulling the trigger, terrified they’re going to lose their freedom or marry the wrong person. When people fear getting involved with never-married people over 40, it’s often because they fear the commitment phobia

5-Most woman are "riding the carousel” which, to put it nicely, means a gal sleeping around, hooking up, and having casual, no strings sex during her teens, 20s, and early 30s with alpha male and finally settling down with Beta.

When you are younger your market sexual value is high When you are older your market sexual value is low.

Why do you think 45% of all babies born are born out of wedlock? These woman want alpha genes...alpha babies

The average male has only 6.5 partner. I have been with over 40 (most of the them when I was younger). I don't keep making the same mistakes like so many woman and men do.

80% of all the sex done is done with 20% of the men. The alpha men. The rest are luck to get sex with 6 people.

6-There are no nice men. That is bullshit.

It's like when you want to buy a car and you want a BMW. All of sudden you see BMW everywhere. The truth is they were always there ...you just didn't notice it. You have to increase your awareness with nice guys . Nice guys are everywhere ...you just don't want to see it, because it is an escape hatch for them. It's an excuse they tell themselves to rationalize their behavior...to explain why their life is the way it is. It makes things ok for them and not really take the blame that the problem isn't outside....but inside

7-Lastly. Woman are become more like alpha.

Men are intimidated by alpha woman. If you have two alpha, there will always be a fight for power. You can't have two captain in a ship.l It's like two bulls hanging out in the same pen together, and there was too much friction. If you have two Beta, nothing ever gets done. Alpha woman aren't nice woman. Everything is a struggle with them. Always resistance and who need that? Well there are a lot of men out there who are looking for mommy, Those beta man will be attracted to alpha woman. That is not me!!!!!!!!!!!!! My alpha side collided more and more with her alpha side and created a wedge between us that overtime we drifted more and more apart

When a woman brag a to me how she’s a “strong independent woman”, she’s just announced to you she’s a Dominant, not an Independent. So you need to be careful. Unless you’re a beta male who likes to be told what to do, a long-term relationship with this gal is going to be damn near impossible. Fuck buddy is okay…Dominants make fantastic FBs if you know how to stand up to their bullshit while still making it clear you accept them for what they are. Some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had has been with my Dominant FBs…but if I were to actually get into a romantic serious relationship with one of these women I’m pretty sure I’d kill myself. The point is, don’t expect a happy, romantic relationship with a Dominant if you’re a more Alpha guy, unless you like drama. Alpha woman will constantly test you....and I am done with school. Women in this category will test you because these women want to identify if you have more Alpha traits than Beta, or vice versa.

I prefer submissive woman. Submissives prefer a man to take charge. They are most comfortable with a strong man who is the boss at least most of the time. Submissives are not (necessarily) weak women. Some Submissives are very strong, for example they can be bosses or managers at work. But at their core, they like it when a man is at least the 75% boss.

Submissives tend to be the most feminine women . They are giver and kind woman. I know most woman think they are kind and caring, but their action are the total opposite. Being feminine isn’t about being beautiful or svelte, or even about wearing high heels .In essence, being feminine means being nice. It means being soft instead of hard. And by “nice,” I don’t mean you should become a mouse. Jackie Kennedy once said there are two kinds of women: those who want power in the world, and those who want power in bed. Women have become laser-focused on the former and have rejected the latter. In doing so, they’ve undermined their ability to find lasting love. The roles may have changed, but the rules haven’t. All a good man wants is for his wife to be happy, and he will go to great lengths to make it happen. He’ll even support his wife’s ideas, plans or opinions if he doesn’t agree with them. That’s because a husband’s number one goal is to please his wife. If he determines his wife cannot be pleased, that’s when the marriage is in trouble. Listen, most guys like he have fewer needs than women do. What men want most of all is respect, companionship and sex. If you supply these basics, your husband will do anything for you—slay the dragons, kill the beast, work three jobs, etc. Men will happily do this if, and only if, they are loved well in return.

You might be asking Why should I have to change? Who would I be if I changed? And how could I be someone different, even if I wanted to? Well my sister was a alpha female, but when we met her husband she became submissive and in return she got love, marriage and kids. It’s like weight loss. Once you realize that diet and exercise is the only way to stay fit, and that sugar and carbs create fat, a light bulb goes off in your head. You’ve unlocked the code to keeping your weight in check. Even if you fall off the wagon (and you will), you’ll know what to do to get back on track. If you keep facing the same issues from one relationship to the next, it’s time to change yourself or… settle with a beta male who matches your energy better. Not every woman is cut out to be with an alpha male. Some of them will be much happier with a beta male if changing proves to be difficult for them. If you want love in your life (and all women want love), stop playing power games and learn to give love. Stop trying to be the man. Be a woman. That’s a pretty hard pill to swallow for many women, especially alpha women who are the take-charge, perfectionist, driven types

Guys with any power to choose will actively avoid women who act like a pain in the ass. Why would a guy want to choose a negative influence in his life? Why would he want to invite someone in who minimizes him and doesn’t appreciate him. Other than true masochists, guys who have choice don’t want this. Can just serving really make that much of a difference? Can you really change your thinking and habits to become more gentle? Can slowing down and letting your husband speak bring peace? Can letting him lead in the dance really make you happy? And what about sex? Is it really just about giving him what he needs? Are men that simple? I am here to tell you ..the answer is YES

If you feel that you are attracting emotionally unavailable men to you, I suspect it could have to do with some of these behaviors. If you have any behaviors that could be construed as bullying, demanding, disagreeable or controlling, then you’ll do best to lay them to rest. OK Cupid did this analysis and they found that the women that got the most attention were Asians (‘Chinese’/ ‘Indian’ looking). Why? Well, apparently these women are seen as more likely to be subservient

Every relationship requires a masculine and a feminine energy to thrive. If women want to find peace with men, they must find their feminine—that is where their real power lies. At the core is the issue of releasing control. This is the war that is being waged in the home. Women are fighting their husbands for leadership and control, but what they’re losing is love. Whether it’s about sex, money, or what you’re going to watch on television, when women let men lead, they’re showing love. This might sound old-fashioned, but anything but.

You are not better or smarter or wiser than your husband. Your way isn’t the right way—it’s just one way. You aren’t the only person in the relationship who can dress well, or grocery shop, or pay the bills, or be a parent. If you think your husband isn’t capable of those things, it may be because you’re always one step ahead of him. Or it may be you expect him to be just like you. Your husband can never be you.

A woman must understand male nature if she wants to find peace with a man. Unfortunately, the younger you are, the more difficult this will be—because we live in a culture that denigrates men. This has caused many women to act haughty, as though they’re better than men. Women today don’t want to use psychology to accommodate the male psyche—they’d rather believe they’re superior and then blame men for everything that goes wrong.

Serving your husband has nothing to do with being a man’s slave. It's a tough to swallow...no pun intended

What does it all mean?

Just about any problem you have in dating can be overcome. You don’t have to be brilliant to find love. You don’t have to speak multiple languages, live in a big city, or have a perfect body.

You do need to drop your list of unrealistic requirements that have nothing to do with love.