THOUGHTS;WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD PEOPLE?
The good guys, the good women, the good people haven't gone anywhere.
It's just sometimes, we think good has a particular look, or feel, or sense of time and....is dressed in gorgeous beauty, looks cool, looks exciting, cute face, those muscles, how he defines you in the world, what friends will think when dating him...we rationalise, we dive, we swim in our own perception, our reality and our reality is truth.
Even...YES...even...how many followers this person has..how many votes...shared...the high quality photo of a jaw line, great teeth, hair, body....the curves, the lip, the hips, the legs..... You know the things most women and men say doesn't matter but really, their behaviour says...it does ;)
Our unconscious mind categerises, filters, labels and Kaboom! Before we know it, we've decided with a little..help.
So what is your definition of good guys?
And how much of the environment, parents, friends, associates, social circle, disney, hollywood, bollywood, music, magazines, newspapers, billboard, social norms, customs, traditions, what others think and all the stuff in the unconscious is interferring?
Sometimes what someone says regarding good guys means someone they are attracted to in looks, in style, or in income, job, or feeling, an instinct, a perception, this and that...and not really looking for a good guy.
Somertimes when someone says “good guys” they mean someone who they can walk all over. Some guy who will take on the drama, pathetic mind games and then say they are not compatible because the “good guy” said, “enough is fucking enough.”
So what is your definitiion of good guys?
The social language says one thing but...
The primitive survival language says something else.
That..
"No.... because when you do, you get this, and this and his which protects you, spread your genes to best males, increases your status, makes you look good in front of mummy...daddy...friends...community....you also get this and this and this.."
Plenty of good guys work voluntary for charity organisations, community work, social work, work for disabilities, youth work and most do so for free because they want to help.
No one stopped any woman visiting.
In fact, many good men in paid jobs too. Smart men. Intelligent men. Clever men. Good men.
Lots of them are...single.
I will go even further to say, there are thousands after thousands of good men right now and who give....give...give...with their knowledge.
Do you see a stampede of women running to them, sending the messages with dating and marriage proposals because these good men giving their time to answer questions, which they won't get paid for?
Some who have answered thousands of questions.
Go and look on their profie on how many lives they've impacted.
When most people ask...
"Where are the good men?"
Translated..
"Where are the men that I'd be attracted to, turns me on, makes my heart go Boom! Boom! Boom! He needs to look like this, dress like that, be like this, ACCEPT ALL my flaws and pathetic drama, and shit atitude or forget it. Friends need to accept him. I don't want to be embarrassed when walking with him and for all to see. Oh no....must be this and that."
Got nothing to do with heart, character etc cetre.
Many women saying this...
"I love my boyfriend, he's such a good guy, good man but....I met this guy at work.."
The grass isn't greener on the other side. It's on the side we water and nurture.
But because people like to believe in the..
Hmmm...possibilities...fantasies....something better round the corner....the new...the fresh....the new sensation...the on going pursuit or inteference....and this nagging...prodding of the grass is greener.
"I am married to a very good man. He's a great father. Very supportive but....I got to know some guy online...and I am in love with him. What do I do?"
Many good men, good women all around us but it seems the good that people look isn't conscious. It's unconscious.
They cannot hold onto a good man because good for many women is not good enough for them then bitch about where they are.
Here are examples below of what happens when women...find good men..
Some even got what they wanted but..it's not enough..
I am married and have fallen in love with another married man. We can't be together, but can't live without each other. What should we do?
It didn't take long for the next one. Two years...happily married...
I am married but I have feelings for someone else. What should I do?
Her husband is the absolute best and she couldn't ask for a better husband but she got eyes on her...best friend...
I am married but have fallen in love with my best friend. What should I do?
She cheated on a long distance relationship because the conversation got boring.
How can I tell my boyfriend in a long distance relationship that I started cheating when our conversation started getting boring?
Her boyfriends makes her happy, she trusts him. He listens to everything she shares with him but...
I met someone; should I break up with my boyfriend?
And something different...
She has a boyfriend...she goes on a course overseas, meets a guy, has a baby and...her boyfriend don't know.
While studying abroad for two years in Europe, I got pregnant. The baby is still there with the dad. Should I tell my boyfriend?
So the question isn't where the good guys or good women have gone.
The question is...
Why aren't you or whoever asks this type of question ..attracting the....good men?
Is being a good man....good enough?
Is a good woman....good enough?
Because the good is out there.
People get the good but the good isn't so exciting when they got it. The good isn't like the fantasy Hollywood, Bollywood and Romance novels.
