SPIRITUAL: PRAYING FOR GOD TO HELP FIND THE ONE.

Yes! Your life isn’t a game of connect-the-dots, with “the one” being a dot you hope to reach. I might not have stated this spiritual fact so confidently one years ago, though. At the time, I had been dating someone, and I really thought she was “the one.” The problem was, she told me that she felt we should just be friends. Even though I was happy spending time with her—even if we were “just friends”—I was also frustrated. I couldn’t help but keep praying for us to get back together.

After a week of that kind of prayer, I finally realized I was focused on what I thought I wanted, rather than on asking God what He knew about me and about this relationship. That was a thought-shift! Now, for the first time, I humbly prayed to know what God knew. Rather than obsessing about how to make this person love me, I became filled with a very strong impulse to let go—let go of my definition of how things needed to turn out, let go of my fears of another failed relationship, let go of trying to make something happen.

This uplifting prayer brought such a sense of peace. I felt so sure of the unconditional presence of divine Love. I realized that God’s guidance wasn’t going to fit in that connect-the-dots analogy. Rather, this growing assurance of the omnipotence of Love made it clear that I would never be lost or outside of good. What’s more, I discovered that even as Love is infinite, it’s also specific in its guidance—never leaving us out or giving one-size-fits-all generic answers. With these realizations, all fear about losing “the one” vanished.

The divine guidance I’ve felt every step of the way in this relationship hasn’t been God pulling or pushing me through various options. Instead, the more aware I am of the presence of Love, the more clear it is that I could never lose love—and I love to be with her as we continue to explore this fact together.

I am searching for my future wife/soulmate. Please stop by again.