PERSONAL: I WANT TO SKIP THE WHOLE DATING PART

I want to be in a relationship but I want to skip the whole dating part  In the old days, majority of woman actually wanted to settle down and have kids. Now it all about career and traveling the world and having a dog. Did I miss something? Most woman have this chemistry fix, if you don't have chemistry on the first date....it's bye bye. There is a guy (Germanlifter) who put a fake tinder profile up with a picture of a model. Every single girl he swipe yes to has been an instant match. His profile was horrible, and his responds were XXX rated and yet they all wanted to sleep with him. Chemistry my ass!!!!

Okcupid did a survey in which women were given pictures of random guys; they rated more than 80% of the guys as less than average.  Any long term relationship that come out of online dating is the exception rather than the rule. The only guys that are going to have any luck on online dating, are the types of guys that are highly unlikely to be there for a relationship; they’re there to get laid by lots of women. I don’t understand how women think and I never will, but I refuse to believe all the women on online dating sites ‘looking for a relationship’ are dumb enough to believe that great looking guys that messaged her is there for ONE woman, so I’ll assume the women are only there to get laid also.

I have lost all hope in woman to be honest. I have seen the same face over and over again on these dating apps. These woman go on dates after dates and still haven't found someone? The problem isn't the guy. The problem is the themselves. No one is good enough for them. If you find something wrong with everyone, you’ll end up past your prime with fewer prospects and fewer men to choose from.

Where have all the good guys gone? Look around lady. They’re everywhere. The problem is, you’re not even looking. You’re selecting. There’s a difference.Looking isn’t you sorting through all the guys you know and saying “Nope, too ugly. Nope, too short. Nope, too poor.” And I have no problem with women having standards. That’s fair. That doesn’t mean good men have gone extinct. It just means you can’t find a man that fits your standards. So, all this boils down to is you checking if there’s a reasonable ratio between how high your standards are and how much you really have to offer as a woman.

So many of them  would rather be alone, than to be with normal and real guy .They rather have no kids and be with their dog, they rather hang out with friends rather than forming a family of their own. Unless they meet the perfect person, they will forever be on dating sites. They don't want to really be in a relationship. I had talks with woman who were in 7,8,9 years with relationship and had nothing to show for it. NOTHING!!! Just remember this. Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has “issues” with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will never be with you. Because he’s not really saying he doesn’t want to get married. He’s saying he doesn’t want to get married to you.

Fact is, anyone who wants a specific thing must make some compromises to get it—be it a Manhattan apartment or a spouse. If you want marriage, and to be married, you can have that, provided you’re willing to do away with the impossible standards and pages-long deal breaker list for Mr. Perfect.In other words, if what you want above all is marriage, you must be willing to commit first and love second

So many woman say they want a relationship but they ghost you.A woman who wants to make a relationship work will move mountains to keep the man she loves. Calling or texting when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If she can't lay this one stupid brick down,you ain't never gonna have a house.The reality is when you like someone AND YOU HAVE THEIR NUMBER, you find any excuse to talk to them.

We have become a sloppy bunch of people. We say things we don't mean. We make promises we don't keep. "I'll call you." "Let's get together." We know we won't. On the Human Interaction Stock Exchange, our words have lost almost all their value. And the spiral continues, as we now don't even expect people to keep their word; in fact we might even be embarrassed to point out to the dirty liar that they never did what they said they'd do
.Wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted.

We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks or possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep. We try to come up with some explanation for why they’re behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, than the one explanation that’s the truth:


Chemistry isn't something that last and is not a great indicator for success in  any relationship. You want to know what is? Values...Kindness...Honesty, I have slept with beautiful woman who were horrible in bed, but no guy will tell you this...because bad pizza is better than no pizza.






We are both on this site to meet someone great, and instead of wasting both our time, there is a couple of items  I want to get out of the way. If any of part of the list is a issue with you, just unmatch me.

1-I am looking for marriage with great fucking sex, a good laugh, partner in crime, epic conversations, a friendship, honesty, and unquestionable loyalty. I would love to have kids as well. Don't have any. If a relationship doesn't add value, why go there? If your presence can’t ADD value to my Life, your absence will make NO difference.

2-Please be kind, a giver, have a real job and take care of yourself physically (slim to athletic)

3-I work and live in long island, so if you can't come to see me sometimes, unmatch me.

4-Please be willing to share your number. I actually want to talk to you and hear your voice...call me old fashion if you wish.

5-If you are going to text me and just disappear (ghost me) unmatch me. You are not giving us a chance,...any relationship takes time, but please don't waste my time.  See, I think of relationships with the same lens as I do my career. If I am going to invest my time into something, it’s because I know I am getting the same investment back in return. Why would you put time and effort into something that doesn’t put the same time and effort into you?

6-If you are looking for your next chemistry "fix", unmatch me. You are not looking for love, you are looking "i don't know". You are still a child. Character is more important to me than chemistry.

7-Be emotionally available. I am not going to spend my time trying to drag things out of you

8-Have time for a relationship. If you can't make time to see me, text me, or even call.....you don't have time for anything

9-Stop asking me what type of doctor I am (YES I am a real doctor)....it like the first thing most woman ask? Are you looking for money or love? Why not ask something about my character...my passion....learn more about me. My family is in the medical field and we never talk about work.

10-I will not share anymore picture, and NO  i am not hiding anything...and  NO>>>I AM NOT MARRIED. I value my privacy.

11-Finally, If you still haven't found what you are looking for after going on so many dates, you are either too picky or no one is ever good enough,there is no point in continuing me with me as well. It shouldn't take forever to find someone to be in a relationship with. You rather be alone if you can't find exactly what you want...you go right ahead.


If any of these things are an issue, I just want to say, thank you for taking the time and effort to contact me and it is obvious you are a nice person. I don't want to stand in your way of finding someone more compatible with you...so all the best with your search.